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Posted on 07/17/2018 9:46:21 AM PDT by Rebelbase
A bad marriage with frequent conflicts could have a serious detrimental impact on your health, according to psychologists.
The researchers at the universities of Nevada and Michigan monitored 373 heterosexual couples to investigate whether disagreeing about multiple topics – such as children, money, in-laws and leisure activities – had negative health implications.
“We followed married couples over the first 16 years of marriage and compared the subjective health of wives and husbands who reported a greater number of conflict topics to those who reported fewer,” said Rosie Shrout, who presented the preliminary results at the International Association for Relationship Research conference in Colorado.
The researchers found that marital conflict negatively affected health for both husbands and wives, although there was a greater impact of conflict on men than women. Couples who agreed with each other more experienced health benefits early on in their relationships, but this protective effect wore off in the later years of marriage.
The health ratings were calculated by asking spouses to answer questions about their health, including whether their health interfered with their work, if they were healthy enough to do the things they wanted to do, if they were having trouble sleeping, if they were bothered by nervousness and feeling fidgety, and whether they were troubled by headaches.
Conflict in a relationship can lead to damaging responses in the body such as inflammation, changes in appetite and increased release of stress hormones, all of which can affect numerous aspects of health ranging from heart function to the immune system, previous research has found.
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In that case, the only other explanation is demonic possession.
Me too!
When my wife is irritated with me, she says “I’ll make you some special tea, and you can take a long nap afterwards...”
It’s the “special tea” and the look on her face and the tone of her voice when she says it that makes me nervous!
Heheh, you have a knack for finding the right graphic to post!
“I am in former camp.”
Tell me, how is it that a bad marriage, with all of its arguments, is EVER going to improve the health of either party?
The really surprising thing is that you can get paid for doing a “study” like this. Actually, nevermind - with our government, it isn’t really a surprise. It is as aggravating as having the money to pay off a credit card sitting in the bank, and then coming home to find out that your wife spent it all on shoes and eating out with her annoying friends.
My father-In-Law went out for a loaf of bread one night and never returned home - My Mother In law could never figure out why - there were about 25 years of reasons...
It’s long been established that chronic long term stress can damage your health.
I’m fortunate that I married a chronically happy woman.
I read a British Medical journal article not too long ago about how older British widows are much happier than then they were when they were married. I can only assume that the men are happier too.
Anybody who has ever been through a divorce will understand the negative effects of a bad marriage with lots of conflict. My wife and I divorced when I was 44. At 46 I had a mild heart attack. I think the divorce was a major contributing factor.
Almost everyone I know who had gotten a divorce lost at least 30 lbs.
Which just goes to show, just losing weight, doesn’t make you healthier.
Stress and bad health can make you lose weight also.
The liberal solution would be divorce.
The better solution is marital counseling with someone other than a harpy who will hate on the husband and blame him for everything.
Even Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University would be better than most “marriage counseling”, it solves a lot of money fights and opens up communication for a lot of couples.
My Dad was extremely controlling and while it went well with his sons (or at least one of them) it didn’t set well with his wife or daughter. The result was when I left home to seek my fortune I left home for good, rarely went back. Later when my mom became a widow, I asked her why she didn’t have more friends because with friends “you might find someone to love again.”.
Her reply was pithy: “I will never again be the subjugated subject or foot stool of any man. Never.” And she wasn’t, either. Happy? Yes, she was. She had very little money and spent less. But she controlled it. I was really proud of her. I feared my dad, but I loved my Mom.
If men suffer health wise, it might have something to do with their tendency to drive aggressively each and every day. It brings the blood pressure up.
Each sex has its own peccadilloes. Nobody is perfect or an angel.
However; further study is DEFINITELY needed just at the time when grants are becoming harder to get.
Before proposing (relatively soon after deciding that the girl I was dating might be marriage material), we discussed those topics and more. We agreed on children, money, and leisure, and we were reasonably close on in-laws, plus what I observed on spending habits and her choice of activities matched what she said. It's nice to have no surprises. We're still happy many decades later.
Really?? Who knew??
There is almost nothing worse for health than to feel trapped in unhappiness. The trapped feeling is worse than the discontent.
Sounds kinda dictatorial; to me.
Maybe Bobbit had it coming...
I’m not going to flame you, Dilbert. I cringe for some of my friends’ husbands. Some women I know make demands without giving anything in return. It’s not fair. Too controlling.
But just know that it isn’t ALWAYS the woman that is more to blame. Sometimes men pull away from all interaction etc, or otherwise irreconcilably break the vows, without a bad wife. It can go both ways.
A good spouse is better than no spouse.No spouse is better than a bad spouse.
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