Absolutely. I have been around many of these Russian adoptees & their parents and am quite familiar with the adoption process (for those of you who don’t know...it could take years, several trips to Russia & cost $20K or more). Problem was the prospective parents assumed any red flags were due to a language barrier when it was really FAS & severe attachment disorder. Not fixable.
The Russian adoption organizations & orphanages put on quite a “show” to get the kids placed. Got to see first hand over a few years what these children were really like...and a good percentage of them were obviously maladjusted...quite unfortunate. And, most of the parents were overwhelmed trying to deal with it...just like your ex.
very trendy in several local churches right now to adopt Ukraine teenagers.
I would no more bring an unknown orphanage raised teenager into my home with my own children than I would put a bomb in the middle of my family.