Posted on 01/09/2018 10:19:33 AM PST by SeekAndFind
Im finding it kind of hard to keep up with all the rules about sex. On the one hand, it seems like were all supposed to be free to have sex with whomever we want, whenever we want, however we want (regardless of whether either party is married, knows one another, or intends to call in the morning). On the other hand, in order to actually have sex, were apparently required to obtain written consent witnessed by a lawyer and signed in triplicate or else its rape. So, are we having all the sex? Or arent we?
It occurs to me that all this carrying on about written consent and microaggressions and whatnot actually stems from the idea that having sex with people you dont know very well is not only allowed, but desirable and liberating. If your sexual partners are total strangers then you have no idea whether or not they are going to treat you with respect, so youve got to express, in writing, what is, and isnt, okay with you just in case your random hookup turns out to be a total perv. If, on the other hand, youre going to have sex with someone you know well, feel comfortable with, and want to be intimate with, then the idea that youd need to document your consent seems ridiculous.
Heres a perfect (if laughable) example of this disconnect: a Japanese professor named Kazue Muta thinks the princes from Snow White and Sleeping Beauty are sexual predators. This sounds ridiculous (because it is) but it actually gets to the heart of this whole sex conundrum.
Muta sent out a tweet last month which translates, When you think rationally about 'Snow White' and 'Sleeping Beauty,' that tell of a princess being woken up by the kiss of a prince, they are describing sexual assault on an unconscious person. You might think Im ruining the fantasy of it all, but these stories are promoting sexual violence and I would like everyone to be aware of it. So basically, because the princes kissed their princesses while the princesses were sleeping (and therefore couldnt give verbal consent that a kiss was acceptable to them) the princes are guilty of sexual assault.
This may sound like an absurd, spotlight-grabbing statement, but Muta is by no means alone in this sentiment, and it perfectly illustrates the problem Ive been talking about. Muta asks us to think rationally, so if youll allow a Disney Princess Addict (yours truly) a moment, I think we can use this example to get at the truth about our current cultures problems with sex.
Mutas statement is only true if the princes and the princesses are strangers and dont know each other well enough to decide whether or not a kiss would be welcome. Both Snow White and Sleeping Beauty have fallen under a spell which puts them to sleep until they receive true loves kiss. This tells us two things: first, even though they are unable to give verbal or written consent (because of the whole curse thing), they are absolutely desirous of being kissed (since we can assume theyd rather not spend the rest of their lives asleep). And, second, the only person who can actually kiss them and break the spell is someone they love, who loves them back.
In this instance (rationally speaking), not kissing Snow White or Sleeping Beauty (if you happen to be her corresponding prince) would pretty much be murder. And kissing someone you love, even when theyre asleep, is actually okay. I mean, if I told you that a husband kissed his sleeping wife in order to wake her up in the morning, youd think that was sweet (Im assuming), not perverted. The only scenario where this becomes, as Muta puts it, sexual assault is if the kisser and the kissee are total strangers.
And, look, I could go on and on at great length about how, even though lots of feminist critics would like to convince you otherwise, Disney princesses and their princes are not total strangers to one another, lets just leave it at this: only true love breaks the sleeping curse. Both Snow White and Sleeping Beauty wake up when their princes kiss them. So they must have loved each other. Hows that for a rational argument?
Heres the thing: context matters. If two strangers decide not to get to know one another, not to fall in love, not to be emotionally intimate with each other, and skip straight to the sex, then maybe they should have some kind of written consent before they do it. (I mean, who can say what some people might be into if you dont even know them.) But if youre choosing to have sex with someone you love, or at least like a lot, and know well, then chances are your advances are welcome (or, if theyre not, that you can talk openly and respectfully about that in the moment).
Im not saying no one should have one-night stands (who am I to judge what people do behind closed doors?). Im only saying this: what do we want to uphold as the epitome of sexual encounters? Random hookups? Or true love? Id tell you to go ask Sleeping Beauty, but shes not really available for comment. Prince Phillip was just arrested for sex crimes.
Yes, because a kiss is so sexual that often times strangers even kiss in greeting.
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LOL! I’m sure some of these leftard professors will come up with “Cinderella has a mental condition which makes her buy material things such as ladies shoes, and go out with handsome men near midnight”
Does the unconscious person’s pleasure mitigate the assault?
Why isn’t being a professor some act of assault in itself in the attention he or she commands?
Lol, it sounds like the free-to-sleep-around crowd is discovering a marriage license is still needed or things get murky. Talk about needlessly reinventing the wheel?
One could just as easily say that the rash of popular vampire movies promote sexual violation of the dead.
You can now find the original version of SLEEPING BEAUTY on line, where the Prince has carnal knowledge with her; if that helps any. :-)
Has this person had a normal relationship in his entire life?
Well, most versions, anyway. I think I’ve heard of another version that, while not quite as extreme as the Sleeping Beauty example above, did have a somewhat dirty means of how the Prince awakened her that didn’t involve a kiss. Let’s just say he took the coffin to act as a literal trophy wife, and the shocks from moving the coffin effectively had Snow White vomiting up the apple lodged in her throat.
I’m also not sure if that was merely the original version or something else regarding Sleeping Beauty (I heard from a Canadian nun that apparently, the original version also had the true love’s first kiss element, or at the very least, she woke up after a hundred years just after he kissed her). But yeah, that wasn’t good at all. Ironically, however, Maleficent actually ALLUDED to that version when mentioning her plans to Phillip to “awaken” Aurora after a hundred years (which if you think about it makes her much worse since she’s effectively going to force the Prince to commit rape on Aurora).
To be fair, it’s more the professor who was at fault here.
And quite frankly, if they’re going to get their panties in a knot over this, they could easily just imagine “true love’s first kiss” as “true love’s CPR”, that avoids the whole sexual element that concerns them.
Personally, I have far more objections to Disney’s handling of Beauty and the Beast due to it trying to push the same kind of feminism that the likes of Simone de Beauvoir, Gloria Allred, and Betty Friedan tried to push, per Linda Woolverton’s own admission, not to mention her handling of Maleficent, than I do Sleeping Beauty or Snow White (well, the Disney versions, anyways).
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