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Boomer parents: 'One day, this will all be yours.' Grown children: 'Noooo!'
The Christian Science Monitor ^ | July 25, 2017 | Samantha Bronkar

Posted on 07/26/2017 7:30:41 AM PDT by Jagermonster

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To: Jagermonster

Estate sales are a wonderful solution to this problem. You are dead, the kids put up a sign and throw open the doors, and people are happy to pay you money to take it away. You can’t take it with you, but they can enjoy your stuff, and your kids can enjoy the money!


21 posted on 07/26/2017 7:58:15 AM PDT by txrefugee (.)
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To: miss marmelstein

I agree. My mom had a 3 bedroom house stacked to the ceilings. It all went to Goodwill and the Salvation Army. No one wanted any of it. It was only valuable to my mom. I’m determined that I won’t do that to my daughter.


22 posted on 07/26/2017 7:59:35 AM PDT by sheana
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To: Vince Ferrer

I knew that would be coming...


23 posted on 07/26/2017 8:00:12 AM PDT by fatez (Ya, well, you know, that's just your opinion man...)
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To: Chickensoup

I solved the issue long ago......if any of my kids want something when I’m gone they tell me and I write their name in it or if furniture tape to the bottom. I have a good size library and one wants the books. Another wants sentimental type things.....

So this works for me.


24 posted on 07/26/2017 8:00:13 AM PDT by caww
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To: GOPJ

Auction companies do this already to some extent...albeit on the back end, after the person has died usually. That’s because horders don’t want help downsizing while alive.

I’ve been to a few auctions, and witnessed people buying crates of junk...always wondered if an estate auction was in their family’s future.


25 posted on 07/26/2017 8:01:06 AM PDT by lacrew
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To: Mamzelle

I have already sent my kids info on a company that will clean out the house——they take EVERYTHING,including what’s in cabinets and the refrigerator.

I suggested that they take what they want and told them not to worry about mucho cash hidden around my place——because there is none. :-)

These people then take everything———the kids get the empty place cleaned——and sell it.

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26 posted on 07/26/2017 8:03:33 AM PDT by Mears
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To: Vince Ferrer

ROFLOL!!

And large tracts of land!!!!

(just watched it last night)


27 posted on 07/26/2017 8:04:36 AM PDT by John O (God Save America (Please))
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To: Jagermonster
We cleaned out my late father's basement a year ago.

High on a shelf that hasn't been touched in decades was a six-pack of Billy Beer.

28 posted on 07/26/2017 8:05:10 AM PDT by Ciaphas Cain (I don't give a damn about your feelings. Try to impress me with your convictions.)
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29 posted on 07/26/2017 8:05:43 AM PDT by Covenantor (Men are ruled...by liars who refuse them news, and by fools who cannot govern. " Chesterton)
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To: caww

I’m not that old yet but have solved the problem by letting people have what they want now. Why make them wait til you’re dead? Daughter asked if she could borrow my pearls for a cocktail party. When she tried to give them back I said keep them. I’ve been giving the granddaughter pieces of my Tiffany jewelry as gifts, graduation, birthdays, etc. They know if they want something all they have to do is ask.


30 posted on 07/26/2017 8:06:07 AM PDT by sheana
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To: Mears

What’s the name of that company and do they have branches across the country?


31 posted on 07/26/2017 8:07:37 AM PDT by Ciexyz (I'm conservative & traditionalist.)
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To: Jagermonster

Man, I relate to this.

Mrs. R2 and I just moved from our big 4 bedroom home of 34 years into a 2 bedroom cabin. We are retiring and downsizing.

One kid is homeless, the other lives in a tiny trailer. They don’t have room for our “stuff” even if they wanted it.

Donate. Sell. Throw away.

Those are your options.


32 posted on 07/26/2017 8:09:19 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd
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To: Ciexyz

It’s a local company——I’ll send you the link later-—on the way out now-—they may know another company that does it.

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33 posted on 07/26/2017 8:10:14 AM PDT by Mears
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To: Jagermonster

I just found a notebook from my college years filled with notes from one of the classes in my major. I’m giving it a lookover for old time sake and then it’s getting tossed.


34 posted on 07/26/2017 8:11:13 AM PDT by Ciexyz (I'm conservative & traditionalist.)
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To: Vince Ferrer; fatez

LOL!

I hate getting to these threads to late to post remarks like this. GMTA.


35 posted on 07/26/2017 8:12:12 AM PDT by PlateOfShrimp
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To: Jagermonster

My sisters and I went through this when dad died a couple years ago. He had a huge house that was packed with stuff. It took us a couple of months to clear it all out. Fortunately we have a large extended family some of whom are not well off so almost all of the furniture found a new home. But we still ended up throwing tons of accumulated memories out. It was gut wrenching, but the reality is that people in the modern world have far more material possessions than former generations and passing it all on is just not possible for most folks.


36 posted on 07/26/2017 8:16:18 AM PDT by NRx (A man of integrity passes his father's civilization to his son, without selling it off to strangers.)
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To: Jagermonster
After my dad died (my mom had passed 5 years before), I had the steep task of cleaning out the house and possessions and selling the house.

It took me a year of processing the probate, and eventually all of his possessions and affairs were in order. It was a demanding job to say the least. Pretty much a second, full-time job.

One day, while working at the house cleaning things out, I talked to the neighbor across the street. He said he asked my dad one time what he was going to do with all the stuff they had in the house and out back (he had a shop building full or tools, hardware and materials).

He said my dad told him, "Nothing. I'll let the kids figure it out after I'm gone." And he did. Thanks dad. :-)

37 posted on 07/26/2017 8:20:41 AM PDT by HotHunt
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To: Mamzelle
Yep--every "thing" is ultimately junk...ashes to ashes, dust to dust. However, some of these token remains of life share a story of a real person who faced challenges and those intergenerational stories have been lost. We don't talk to our elders. Kids would rather play a video game than hear about the sacrifices of those who went before them. In fact, I have learned much about my ancestors from finding this stuff. Sympathy cards for a lost child I didn't even know about. Postcards from Niagara Falls from 1911, and the same people never had enough money to leave town again.

Now, in facing my challenges, I often think of them and how they got through it all. I do not feel like my life has greater meaning through the material but I am just another link in a greater story.

38 posted on 07/26/2017 8:24:12 AM PDT by MHT (,`)
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To: sheana
Yep...I do that too..just gave some Jewelry to my daughter-in law who visited. Never was one for wearing it...just earrings and maybe a bracelet....but I had dress Jewelry for those special occasions which is what I gave to her...just kept my favorites. She just loved trying on pieces and it was fun for me to give them to her....Last week my other son took a bookshelf after I condensed books....told him he'd need one when I go. It's actually fun to unload some of this stuff because I moved to smaller quarters about 11 years ago. Decided if I'm not using it it's going out....so I ask the kids and if it's a no it goes on the street with a 'free' sign on it..... Two snack bar chairs were taken in less than an hour! Another time I put out a microwave and toaster....for garbage to take....heck that was gone in minutes of setting it out there!
39 posted on 07/26/2017 8:24:26 AM PDT by caww
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To: Jagermonster

I suppose there was an upside of having parents who sold everything we had so they could buy drugs.


40 posted on 07/26/2017 8:27:44 AM PDT by MeganC (Democrat by birth, Republican by default, conservative by principle.)
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