Posted on 01/14/2017 5:49:05 AM PST by Crucial
I hesitate to speak negatively about half of the American population but I just can't help noticing the endless anger and lamentation of the modern American woman. I've lived with it through many decades. Feelings of persecution often drive the decisions and beliefs of the modern American woman. Men are almost exclusively believed to be the cause of this persecution when often it has another source or is sometimes even self inflicted. It's not that I'm saying men do no wrong. But men sometimes actually do things right and that is too often ignored with damaging consequences.
It is my belief that these feelings of persecution have deepened despite the success American women have had in all aspects of American life. This resentment that is the result of these feelings now extends to other groups and social movements like accepting Muslim migrants without using background checks or championing transgenderism. These things would also not occur if men did not feel the requisite guilt that American women demand.
American women, more than any other group has embraced egalitarianism in all aspects of society and nature and extended to it's absurd and illogical end. And it's destroying us.
+1
It is true that there are many more liberal women than conservative women. It is also true that those women have gained power and wealth in the last 20 years and hence the rate of change towards Leftism has increased.
In the culture you are describing, the men eventually do take an interest. That is not so in America’s inner cities.
Rebuild that mound as Dalrock says, dear.
What makes you think the pickings for women are any better in this country?
Have you seen the scrawny, metrosexual, skinny jean wearing creatures that are supposed to be passing for males these days?
THANK YOU!!!!
You said it better than I.
"What a drag it is getting old...."
Best way to avoid the date rape charge is to wait until marriage to have sex.
Problem solved.
What about the Billy Bush tape?
So he tells Bush what goes on in the circles in which he runs.
And?
How is that a problem?
Or did you buy into the false accusation that he actually admitted to groping some female there?
My comments apply to all men about sleeping around.
And you have no response about MEN being virgins when they marry? I notice you totally sidestepped that one.
Do your standards only apply to women and you have different ones for men?
And men wonder why women are speaking up against it.......
Hah, that’s refreshing to hear. There’s nothing more irritating than a smarmy metrosexual.
Not making it up. It happened in the ‘90’s and probably happens more often than people know.
I’m not complaining so much about American womens’ private or personal attitudes but more about how their feelings of persecution influences their politics although there is some spillover.
But I do lament when at least part of the pool of available women crash and burn in their teens and twenties, dating complete jerks and then expecting the nice guys to pick up the pieces and not get to enjoy these women’s youth.
“Any reat deal of what we are seeing in the deterioration of modern society looks to me like women’s emotional tendencies are being given equal footing with or taking precedence over actual rational thought.”
That’s very insightful. I wish I knew how to counter it.
Smarmy is a very good description.
NO! We're NOT all the same.
Those kinds of manipulation techniques, along with the tears routine, are despicable.
I refuse to turn on the water works to try to manipulate men.
Lol.
I’m not sure how to handle it from a societal perspective. Hopefully the backlash against political correctness that we are witnessing now will help greatly.
On an individual, personal level, here are two ways to handle it. Number 1, when a woman or man is emotionally overwrought, get them in a private office or conference room and let them rant until they are finished. Do not argue even if they don’t make sense. Note (even if you have to write them down) the rational points that are included in the rant and disregard the emotional gibberish. If she’s really upset, there is something wrong. It should be identified and rectified.
When they are finished ranting, calmly ask them about the rational points and find out what they think caused the problem. Be sure to ask if there is anything they had done previously that contributed to the issue. Then ask what they think they can do to avoid or correct it in the future. Sometimes, it turns out that what are really upset about is not the thing they think they’re upset about. Don’t get into the blame game, not them or the offending party, get them to think about and coach them in how to handle it in the future.
Help them determine if any corrective action is necessary for the most recent event or incident.
No. 2, if there is no time or place for a private conference, ask them to please write it all up privately. If it is in a work situation, offer them you private email address so that their most extreme comments are never on the company communication lines. Then follow up as in 1 above. Identify the real issues being addressed in between all of the upset, query them, ask the person to suggest ways that it might be handled better and offer some advice on constructive ways to address it.
The thing is that whenever someone’s emotions are overwhelming them, they are not fully rational. But they probably have a genuine grievance. Let the emotions blow down by allowing them to be expressed in a way that will not do damage. Then, they will be able to help sort out the issues rationally and productively.
As a woman, you know when your emotions are at an extreme level. If there is no one to guide you through them as described above, do it for yourself. Write down all of your rants until you don’t have anything more to write. Then go eat some ice cream or chocolate or something relaxing to you.
Later, when you are feeling calm go back and review it and do your own coaching. Read through it and look for the rational points and start to address them rationally. Sometimes it is much ado about nothing, other times, there is something that needs to be tended to.
This also works with children whose emotions are also very volatile.
Danger, danger, Dr. Smith. Do not ever go behind closed doors alone with an overwrought female employee as a male supervisor, or behind closed doors alone with an overwrought black or hispanic employee of either gender as a white supervisor. Get HR involved, you need a witness, for your own protection as well as theirs. Pitiful that this is the case, but it is and has been for going on twenty years.
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