Do you continue to hold her after she falls asleep?
I always waited until she got into deeper sleep before I’d put her down, that way she was too deep to wake up when I put her in her crib.
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We held her all night for the first 8 months before we could get her onto her bed, on the floor, next to ours. Right now, we get her into a deep sleep before moving her into the bed or moving her away from our mattress.
There is no such thing as deep sleep with her. I can’t talk on the phone while she’s sleeping - even across what I would consider a large house. We’ve gone down the road of raising a baby in perfect quiet, perfect sleeping conditions. We never wanted to be that way, but it’s all that worked.
We are literally working in shifts. We don’t sleep together, and I can’t work at all.
In other words, love. Beautiful. You focus on the child, but do not obsess over the child. Common sense. You attune your thoughts and behavior to the infant’s needs. Natural and normal. The behavior of a well-adjusted parent. Calm and caring, sensitive, healthy. I imagine it did not take you a doctor, therapist or book to figure that out either.