In other words, love. Beautiful. You focus on the child, but do not obsess over the child. Common sense. You attune your thoughts and behavior to the infant’s needs. Natural and normal. The behavior of a well-adjusted parent. Calm and caring, sensitive, healthy. I imagine it did not take you a doctor, therapist or book to figure that out either.
Not really. I just learned her ways.
Somewhere under a half-hour after she fell asleep, she'd shudder once and her breathing would get markedly slower and deeper. At that point, I could put her in the crib and she'd sleep all through the night.