I’ll post responses to everyone, individually.
We held her all night for the first 8 months before we could get her onto her bed, on the floor, next to ours. Right now, we get her into a deep sleep before moving her into the bed or moving her away from our mattress.
There is no such thing as deep sleep with her. I can’t talk on the phone while she’s sleeping - even across what I would consider a large house. We’ve gone down the road of raising a baby in perfect quiet, perfect sleeping conditions. We never wanted to be that way, but it’s all that worked.
We are literally working in shifts. We don’t sleep together, and I can’t work at all.
If you can’t get a baby to sleep deeply, I’d be looking at her diet. She might be sensitive to something.
Have you tried charting her foods?
Ours kept getting these big ass hives after meals. It took several weeks but momma finally tracked it down to artificial food coloring.
If you want to see something funny, watch a kindergartner checking out the label before she’ll eat a piece of candy.
The culprit turned out to be food allergies. Once I stripped the triggers out of my diet and cleansed my system, I started sleeping through the night again. The change took all of 3 days for my life to return to normal.
You might want to put her on the candida diet, which contains a whole host of foods you would by at any supermarket. No milk, no bread, no cheese, nothing that contains yeast, sugar, or converts to sugar as it's broken down. It will help shift her engine into a lower gear and allow her to reach deep REM cycles (and you, too!).
For any naysayers out there, if you have never suffered from protracted episodes of insomnia, you would not understand how it damages your health, impacts your ability to function on a daily basis, and wreaks havoc on your cognition. This Dad is hanging on by his fingernails and needs compassion and prayers.
I'm praying for you, Celerity, you and your family.