You might give us a clue as to why we should click on the link.
Well, we try it, but the Cruzbots never self-soothe.
“Cry It Out” is a form of child abuse tailored to appeal to narcissistic adolescents who want to pretend to be “parents.” This ranks with abortion and schools among the greatest evils that are destroying children.
The “cry it out” period never lasted for more than three evenings in my experience.
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#3 was our pickle. Because she shared a room with her older sister, we worried about her waking up #2. After a month of no sleep, we learned big sis can sleep through the tantrum, and the tantrums ended when #3 didn’t get her way. Granted, the tantrums started at around one year when she was weaned, not at he infancy stage.
I put my babies to bed every night since they were born. I hold them when they cry, rush to the bed when they call to me, invite them when they are scared, and take care of them always. My oldest is six.
I weigh 195 and I am a male; can run 10 miles any time its called for. Make a fare living and raise my children 1 mile from the ocean.
There is no way in hell I’ll let my children be scared of something as insignificant as being alone. Because they never are.
Funny you should mention.
Being adoptive parents, we’ve always been mindful of attachment and abandonment issues.
Once my wife’s business partner, who used to be our social worker, wondered out loud why our daughter has attached to us so beautifully. She said “usually, the child will pick one parent or the other to bond to, at least initially, but she bounces between you two like a ping pong ball.”
I asked her “what is the single most prevalent form of abandonment a child endures?”
She drew a blank.
I told her “going to bed.” “One of us has rocked her to sleep in our arms every single night since she came into our family.”
She’s seven now, and while we haven’t rocked her to sleep in a long time, she puts herself to bed every night by curling up on the couch or in my cave next to her momma or I, and sleeps contentedly that way even after we put her in bed.
We know because we adopted a Russian orphanage child.
Reactive Attachment Disorder is almost universal among these kids. RAD persists into young adulthood and, as far an anybody knows, forever. Researchers now say the early childhood deprivation causes measurable, structural brain damage, a profound atrophy of the neural pathways necessary for the development of empathy, trust, emotional warmth, curiosity about others, desire to communicate, responsiveness, and loyalty.
Babies and young children need physical closeness and lots of it. It does not end up making them dependent: it ends up making them confident. When their emotional needs are fulfilled, they are not afraid to venture out into their next levels of development.
The stories I could tell.
My ex-DIL did this with my granddaughter even when she was sick. My son couldn’t take it and used to spend many nights sleeping on the floor next to her crib.
They divorced, some genius judge gave her custody after she made allegations, no matter there was no proof. Then she moved 2K miles away.
She treated her like a stepchild. When she was 17 the granddaughter refused to go back home to her mother after the summer and still lives with her father who has had to continue to pay child support for her. She’s a straight A student in her 2nd year of college and her mother has never given her a cent.
She never bonded with her.
My mother used to say that if a baby is crying he needs something even if it is just needing to be held.