Posted on 02/18/2016 7:14:59 PM PST by Fester Chugabrew
Hey there, honey. It's me, Cheryl. I just got the "save the date" announcement for your impending nuptials. Looks like you're planning on a November wedding. That will certainly be a beautiful time of year to get married, and I am glad to see you so excited and full of hope. You deserve some happiness.
Here's the thing, though. I've been watching you with this guy Donald for a while now, and I'm concerned. I know how loudly he professes his love for you. He's taken you to some amazing parties and promised you an incredible future. After the way you were treated by the last guy, it must be exciting to have found someone who seems to put you on a pedestal. I can understand why you think he's the one you've been waiting for.
But I have to be honest â I am worried about you. When I look at you with him, I see red flags everywhere. I just don't trust the guy. So I'm going to take a deep breath and tell you what I think you need to hear, whether you want to or not. It's what your parents would say if they were still around (may they rest in peace).
Don't Expect Him to Change
First, you need to remember what your mama always taught you: you cannot fix someone. What you see is what you get, and a wedding isn't going to change that. So if he gambles too much now, he'll gamble too much then. If he insults and calls people names and uses foul language now, he'll do it then. If he lies now, he'll lie later.
He never asks you what you think, but tells you what you ought to think.
He may say he will clean up his act after the wedding, but he won't. You only need to look at the way he treats others now to know how he will treat you later. If you think he will be better with you, you are wrong.
Second, marriage is not supposed to be a dictatorship, but a two-way street. I have watched you around this guy and it seems you are always in the shadows and he is in the forefront. He never asks you what you think, but tells you what you ought to think. He makes all the decisions, and if you disagree with him on something, you are stupid.
You know, you are your own person, with your own history and identity and worth. You had a life before him. But he doesn't seem interested in that. Instead, he wants to start from scratch and remake you in his own image. That is not love but narcissism. I am afraid if you marry this guy you are going to lose yourself forever.
Third, I know that our politically correct culture has been oversold on the value of sensitivity. But that doesn't mean you should throw the baby out with the bathwater. Gentleness and sensitivity are good things. So are thoughtfulness and caring.
In fact, sometimes strength is exhibited best in the exercise of restraint.
Yes, you want someone who is strong and who will stand up for you, protect and defend you. But a man can be strong as well as sensitive. The best men are both. In fact, sometimes strength is exhibited best in the exercise of restraint. But restraint isn't anywhere in this guy's vocabulary that I can see.
Look, I know you were bullied and abused by the last guy. But the answer is not to yoke yourself to another bully. Please don't make the same mistake again. It's not too late to reconsider. You are beautiful and smart and have so much to offer. You've just had a rough run of it lately and have lost your confidence. But you deserve so much better.
This guyâhe doesn't really care about you. He doesn't want to serve you; he wants to lord over you, put you on his arm and parade you around to all his friends, a new trophy added to his collection. Don't let him do that to you. Don't be his trophy. Be the independent-minded, thoughtful, intelligent, and self-respecting woman you were brought up to be.
And, hey, when you're ready, there's someone I'd like to introduce you to. His name is Ted.
Love,
Cheryl
Today, a socialist and not very Christian Pope tried to tell us how to vote.
FAUX and ABCNNBCBS lie to us 24/7 about how dumb we are to listen to Trump instead of them on who to vote for.
Cheryl Magness - we’ve met Ted...
Where’s the barf alert? This reads like something from Women’s Day magazine.
Is that really what we want from our next president: to be run over by him? Thanks, but Obama’s done enough of that already.
I call him “unprincipled” because he is late to the game and because he has demonstrably given support to people utterly opposed to life itself as found within a mother’s womb. That’s all. You think he’s solid? Fine. I’ll see your solid and raise you 50 diamonds.
I agree that Trump seems to want the office as a trophy to hang on his wall. He isn’t driven by core principles. He just wants the title. And he will say anything to get it.
I paused a bit. Now I’m all-in for Donald Trump.
He will not solve all problems. He has a chance to start moving us back to prosperity. The fundamental issues that need to be addressed are those he has been constantly addressing.
No candidate we attempt to elect can turn this country back to the right in one fell swoop. To believe that is possible is nonsense and delusional. It may be desirable, but it will not possibly happen in one fell swoop. Attempting a “Hail Mary” is not the answer.
Use the playbook that has been successful over the last couple of generations: Incrementalism. Move the pendulum back a little at a time. This is a rational possibility, and should be the goal of anyone who desires that this country continue as a Republic, IMO.
I will happily vote for Mr. Cruz, but I do not believe he has what it takes to win this November.
I will also happily vote for Mr. Trump, knowing his positives and negatives, as I believe he can win this November, and he can, if nothing else, address fundamental issues that must be corrected if our Republic is to have any chance to survive over the long term.
Uh, we don’t trust the other candidates, either. They all lie. We are used to lying politicians, & most of them aren’t even saying things we want to here.
Trump has some unique attributes that make him a better choice than the others.
He is beholding to no big money interests, so unlike the others, he doesn’t HAVE to listen to any of them as the others MUST do to maintain their support for reelection.
If elected President, he will have little support from the RATS & tepid support from the GOPe. To get reelected, the immediate goal of any new President, Trump will have to satisfy the people who elected him, or face rejection at every turn. I don’t believe Trump could stand such a humiliating rejection, putting him in the same league as Jimmy Carter & Bush 41. His only option is to be seen actively working on the “wall” & making America great again, using the bully pulpit to motivate Congress.
I am HOPEFUL that Trump’s deep disdain for incompetence & sloth will compel him to clean out the dead weight in government. In the last shutdown, it was reported that about 80% to 90% of the EPA employees were deemed non-essential. Only Trump is likely to fire even one of these employees. The others will hire more non-essential employees - that has been their record.
I am also hopeful that a President Trump will investigate the serious crimes of Clinton & Obama. There’s not a chance in hell that the others, all members of the Good ‘Ol Boys Club, will even investigate one of their own. It’s not politically correct.
On foreign policy, we have seen what a wimpy President can do for world security. We need a tough talking, somewhat unpredictable President to give pause to our enemies.
Trump is certainly not perfect. I cringe at some of the stuff he says. But he is the ONLY one who MIGHT start turning this country around, while the others only guarantee more of the same, & THAT AIN’T NEARLY GOOD ENOUGH.
Seriously. Who rides the train? Nobody but big city liberals.
Trump claimed to be very prochoice. But now that he’s running for office he’s suddenly pro-life...but likes planned parenthood.
If you are a Trumpeter, some might accuse you of being gullible.
Ugh...
Seems like it's always Opposite Day with these people...
There is just something about Ted’s eyes that really bothers me.
Never seems happy or glad just sort of sad or scared.
The article is a good and humorous analogy.
Some will continue to ignore the boy’s obvious problems..
Well he hovers around a 60% National disapproval so he’s toast in the general. The scary part ihe may get the nomination. And don’t think he’s going to improve when the lights are REALLY turned on him after the Conventions.
I agree with this author’s assessment. See the top part of my profile page where I give my opinion of Trump. The author and I were sizing him up and arriving at the same conclusion.
I dated Ted for awhile, but he LIED to me, he'd do something really bad, then make all kinds of excuses. And if THAT wasn't bad enough, he got his buddy to back up his lie. Can you imagine that?
And then there is the little thing...NOBODY I KNOW, OR AM RELATED TO LIKES HIM AT ALL!
My mother asked me if I knew that he is a Canadian; not that that is so bad; it's just that he lied about it, at first.
Then my father asked me why he doesn't have any friends and after I thought about that, I figured out that nobody really wants to marry a liar who looks like "Grandpa" in "THE MUNSTERS".
My friend Kathy asked me if I had noticed that Teddy was GREAT repeating memorized lines, but was just awful, when he didn't have a written script. Gosh....that made me think some more!
Worst of all, Dan said that he plays video games late into the night, has trouble filling out forms, and that his really CREEPY friend Glenn goes EVERYWHERE with him.
So I started going out with Donald, who treats me like a queen, LOVES America, knows all of these BRILLIANT people who think that Don is just the greatest thing since sliced bread, and so I'm marrying him in November! And BTW....you aren't invited to the wedding, because you are the "B" word and stupid!
You’re really blind; pity that.
You Cruzers had better NOT spend the next 8 years trolling every thread, whinging and whining band trashing President Trump!
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