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I used to be transgender. Here’s my take on kids who think they are transgender.
LifeSiteNews ^ | 2/17/16 | Walt Heyer

Posted on 02/17/2016 10:05:56 AM PST by wagglebee

February 17, 2016 (DailySignal) -- When a 9-year-old boy who identifies as Stormi, a transgender girl, started selling Girl Scout cookies, one neighbor was not amused, according to Buzzfeed.

The neighbor rebuffed him, reportedly saying, “Nobody wants to buy Girl Scout cookies from a boy in a dress.”

The neighbor is being called transphobic—but perhaps the neighbor thought he was being pranked by a boy and reacted accordingly. Not everyone assumes that a boy in a dress selling Girl Scout cookies is transgender.

People Can Be Genderphobic

Stormi looked like a boy to the neighbor because he really is a boy. Transgender people may deceive themselves, but they do not deceive others.

Life in society is not some fantasy world where a boy should pretend he has magically transformed himself into a girl simply by uttering the words “I am a girl” and changing how he presents himself.

The people who strongly object to the honest reaction from a man saying, “Nobody wants to buy Girl Scout cookies from a boy in a dress” are perhaps gender-phobic, rejecting and ridiculing the reality of male and female genders.

The people who encourage very young kids to act out, switch genders, and live a life of pretend need to understand that Stormi could be suffering from a dissociative disorder, just as happened with me. My feelings of not wanting to be a boy started in early childhood as result of cross-dressing at the hands of my grandma.

Stormi could be in need of psychotherapy, not a dress.

Caregivers all too often collaborate with a mental disorder instead of treating it. Telling a psychologically troubled boy he has changed genders is not compassion, but can become reckless parenting. By withholding psychotherapy, parents could be abusing the kid.

My Transgender Story

Living in a self-made gender fantasy world void of reality is not psychologically or emotionally healthy.

I know that to be true. I was transgender kid at the age of 4. For decades, as I tried to live in my male birth gender, the feelings of being a woman only grew stronger.

I sought help from a renowned gender specialist who told me that mine was a clear-cut case of gender dysphoria—strong, persistent feelings of identification with the opposite gender and discomfort with one’s own assigned sex. He said the only way to get relief was to surgically change genders.

I underwent gender reassignment surgery at 42 years of age after cross-dressing for most of my life.

I lived as a transgender, Laura Jensen, female, for eight years. While studying psychology in a university program, I discovered that trans kids most often are suffering from a variety of disorders, starting with depression—the result of personal loss, broken families, sexual abuse, and unstable homes. Deep depression leads kids to want to be someone other than who they are.

That information sure resonated with me.

Finally, I had discovered the madness of the transgender life. It is a fabrication born of mental disorders.

I only wish that when I went to the gender counselor for help he would have told me I couldn’t really change genders, that it is biologically impossible. Instead, he approved me for gender reassignment surgery, a surgery that, if I had been provided proper psychotherapy, would never have been necessary or appropriate.

The Role Trauma and Psychological Disorders Can Play

The transgender life is often the direct result of early childhood difficulty or trauma. Assisting a young child into the fabricated ideology of a transgender life is not helping the child sort out what is real and what is fiction.

The likelihood that the child known as Stormi is suffering from separation anxiety or some other psychological disorder cannot be ignored. Stormi is living in a foster home. While it may be safe and necessary, foster care is intended to separate the child from the birth parent. This can lead to psychological disorders like separation anxiety disorder.

Separation anxiety occurs as the result of loss or separation from the birth parent. Disruption in a child’s home environment can lead to stress, depression, and anxiety. Living in a foster home even under the best conditions can be stressful to a young person.

Separation anxiety disorder and other psychological disorders can masquerade as gender dysphoria, leading caregivers and medical practitioners to misdiagnose and not provide proper or effective psychotherapies.

Stormi’s life will evolve as maturity unfolds. Most likely in 15 or 20 years, reality will set in that he really never changed genders. This is often a turning point where the trans life is not looking as good as it once did.

Thankfully, like me, many transgender persons return to the gender they once shed. Slowly they restore the life that was lost.

The three men who came up with the idea of changing boys into girls and making transgenders, Alfred Kinsey, Harry Benjamin, and John Money, were pedophilia advocates. (For more of the history, see “Sex Change” Surgery: What Bruce Jenner, Diane Sawyer, and You Should Know.)

The neighbor man was correct about one thing: The Girl Scout at his door was really a boy in a dress—just like I was as a young boy who thought I was a girl.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: homosexualagenda; moralabsolutes; transgender
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To: wagglebee

It’s so obviously insane to think you are not the sex your body is expressing. It is child abuse to name a child the wrong sex.


21 posted on 02/17/2016 10:30:07 AM PST by SaraJohnson
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To: wagglebee
Walt is a good man, but I wish he would stop recommending psychotherapy. It is decidedly NOT medical, scientific, or effective.

And if you are a Christian, it is antithetical to your foundational belief system.

22 posted on 02/17/2016 10:32:56 AM PST by fwdude
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To: SaraJohnson

These are some obvious abuses.

Less obvious abuses may be stereotypes that are SO tight that they may have the child wishing he/she wasn’t even his/her sex because he/she sees no room for it in the social structure. There could be room for emotionally precocious boys, for instance, to play with dolls in a Daddy role, not necessarily with GI Joes, yet hardly anybody thinks about this. Yet it might make the difference between the boy thinking he has to be “gay” or a girl.

And ironically it is not traditionalism itself, but an illiberal take on it, that is to blame.


23 posted on 02/17/2016 10:35:28 AM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Embrace the Lion of Judah and He will roar for you and teach you to roar too. See my page.)
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To: HiTech RedNeck

Very astute remark!


24 posted on 02/17/2016 10:36:41 AM PST by miss marmelstein (Richard the Third: With my own people alone I should like to drive away the Turks (Muslims))
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To: fwdude

It is sometimes stereotyped as “antithetical” in the church, but Christian psychotherapy is a valid variety of ministry. Pointing out some errors that it has made, can be balanced by pointing out errors that modern traditional church preachers have made: all have room to learn from one another.


25 posted on 02/17/2016 10:37:45 AM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Embrace the Lion of Judah and He will roar for you and teach you to roar too. See my page.)
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To: arl295

I also believe that children simply grow out of their confusion. We don’t know how many kids were confused about their identity and are now fully-functioning people.

I shudder to think how Tom Boys are treated today! I played being a soldier, a cowboy and even a horse as a kid. Naaaaaah!


26 posted on 02/17/2016 10:39:47 AM PST by miss marmelstein (Richard the Third: With my own people alone I should like to drive away the Turks (Muslims))
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To: wagglebee

Don’t expect this victim to be on the news or talk show circuit anytime soon.


27 posted on 02/17/2016 10:40:01 AM PST by Teacher317 (We have now sunk to a depth at which restatement of the obvious is the first duty of intelligent men)
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To: HiTech RedNeck
There is no such thing as "Christian psychology," much less psychotherapy. The presuppositions of both view are antithetical.

Please show me in any book, text, medical journal, or medical school where "Christian psychology" is discretely identified as a field?

28 posted on 02/17/2016 10:41:26 AM PST by fwdude
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To: AppyPappy
He wrote an unsettling account of his childhood sex confusion in “Music for Chameleons.” A wonderful book with the masterful tale “Handcarved Coffins” contained within.
29 posted on 02/17/2016 10:42:21 AM PST by miss marmelstein (Richard the Third: With my own people alone I should like to drive away the Turks (Muslims))
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To: wagglebee
"Nobody wants to buy Girl Scout cookies from a boy in a dress."

I'd stake my retirement on this being just another lying homo-hoax. Just like the "no-tip" waitress receipt, the back-flip "gay bashing," or Matthew Sheppard's murderer's intent, these lies fuel their narrative.

I wouldn't even be surprised if some school "LGBT" counselor put him up to this.

30 posted on 02/17/2016 10:44:31 AM PST by fwdude
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To: wagglebee

and where were the parents to tell this boy he is not a girl in the first place. Sounds like the parents have mental issues too.

Girl scouts came to me this weekend asking if I wanted to buy cookies and I told them no thank you.
One of the parents asked me why and I told her away from the little girls that the girl scouts is all about a homosexuals cross dressing agenda and I will not give them money to promote that.
She said she had no idea and was I sure.


31 posted on 02/17/2016 10:45:19 AM PST by manc (Marriage =1 man + 1 woman,when they say marriage equality then they should support polygamy)
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To: miss marmelstein

It bothers and disgusts me, because I’ve lived the “precociously emotive” part myself. Being treated like I can’t possibly be experiencing what I was experiencing, was literally a world class bummer for me. No, “gay” is not the only misstep possible in such a situation, though I won’t bother anyone with details.

The answer, I found squarely in Jesus relatively belatedly in my life. He’s the Guy who bawled (that’s probably the best translation there is for the term, not a polite wept) at the tomb of Lazarus before resurrecting him, a body that was not just dead but beginning to rot! And His Father heard... now if there is even a HINT of anything unmasculine there, it is out of the minds of stereotypers. God was able to pull out all the stops to the full diapason of compassion in full view. And it was not long before He was going to be crucified for this kind of fame.


32 posted on 02/17/2016 10:45:27 AM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Embrace the Lion of Judah and He will roar for you and teach you to roar too. See my page.)
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To: Mercat

Girl scouts came to me this weekend asking if I wanted to buy cookies and I told them no thank you.
One of the parents asked me why and I told her away from the little girls that the girl scouts is all about a homosexuals cross dressing agenda and I will not give them money to promote that.
She said she had no idea and was I sure.


33 posted on 02/17/2016 10:45:58 AM PST by manc (Marriage =1 man + 1 woman,when they say marriage equality then they should support polygamy)
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To: fwdude

It is defined from the church side. You are pulling rhetorical tricks.


34 posted on 02/17/2016 10:46:13 AM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Embrace the Lion of Judah and He will roar for you and teach you to roar too. See my page.)
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To: wagglebee
A fact that the left deliberately ignores.
Never mind the left. So called conservatives are shamed into accepting this crap as normal more and more everyday...And sadly it's working.
35 posted on 02/17/2016 10:46:20 AM PST by lewislynn (Ted Cruz: " I'll never have 'a plane with my name" …(or a Presidential seal))
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To: HiTech RedNeck

The Church has been deceived, and so have you. There is NOTHING from the Church’s perspective to recommend godless, worldly psychology to a Christian.


36 posted on 02/17/2016 10:48:12 AM PST by fwdude
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To: fwdude

“...psychotherapy. It is decidedly NOT medical, scientific, or effective. “

I have a close personal friend who is a life-long Christian Psychologist (with a Phd) who would disagree with you.

I’m curious - exactly what is antithetical to Christianity about psychotherapy (unless you’re talking about Christians seeing non-Christian therapists, then I might agree)?


37 posted on 02/17/2016 10:49:03 AM PST by jonno (Having an opinion is not the same as having the answer...)
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To: fwdude

Jesus rebuked your kind many times, by pointing out that the “world” was wiser to many issues that were fundamental, than the Pharisees were.

Get thee behind me and Jesus, Satan!


38 posted on 02/17/2016 10:49:30 AM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Embrace the Lion of Judah and He will roar for you and teach you to roar too. See my page.)
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To: wagglebee

Focus on the MOLESTATION of children as the primary cause!


39 posted on 02/17/2016 10:50:49 AM PST by G Larry (ILLEGAL IMMIGRANTS impose SLAVE WAGES on LEGAL Immigrants.)
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To: wagglebee
He said the only way to get relief was to surgically change genders.

Chemistry and cutlery do not change gender, doctor....

40 posted on 02/17/2016 10:52:16 AM PST by ErnBatavia (It ain't a "hashtag"....it's a damn pound sign. ###)
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