Ya, I’ve heard this reasoning before, that we are too focused on genitalia and that makes us bigoted.
We are also too “binary” in our thinking about sex and gender. You thought there were only two sexes, male and female? It turns out that there are at least 56 different identified gender identities.
Send me to reeducation camp right now. 56 gender identites? I can identity a few: male, female, gay male, gay female, bisexual people; what are the rest????