Posted on 04/07/2015 8:44:59 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
(CNSNews.com) – Seventy percent of American males between the ages of 20 and 34 are not married, and many live in a state of “perpetual adolescence” with ominous consequences for the nation’s future, says Janice Shaw Crouse, author of “Marriage Matters.”
“Far too many young men have failed to make a normal progression into adult roles of responsibility and self-sufficiency, roles generally associated with marriage and fatherhood,” Crouse, the former executive director of the Beverly LaHaye Institute, wrote in a recent Washington Times oped.
The high percentage of bachelors means bleak prospects for millions of young women who dream about a wedding day that may never come. “It’s very, very depressing,” Crouse told CNSNews.com. “They’re not understanding how important it is for the culture, for society, for the strength of the nation to have strong families.”
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20 is a little young in this generation’s terms. The chances of finding another 20 year old ready to marry is a little slim.
I’m an adviser for a fraternity and this generation is very different from mine.
Men tended to get a little break in that area because they’ve used that time to build their careers so they could provide for a family. But now I agree its just holding off adulthood.
They want a man like you but they want you to chase them and you don’t have the time. So it’s a Catch 22
It’s no wonder men have taken to Bromances. Around here, they buy trailers on the river and fish/boat when it isn’t winter. When winter comes along, they leave for a month to head into the mountains to go hunting. They go to the beach with the guys instead of the wife which means they are deep sea fishing and golfing instead of holding the wife’s purse at Barefoot Landing.
I have five daughters (and two sons).
Very, very few boys have been raised to be husbands in the past 30 years. It’s not at all surprising that 70% of young men are not married - if they do not understand what being a husband means and/or have no desire to be one, why would they marry?
Sounds like Obama when he said, “We live in the greatest country in the history of the world! Help me change that.”
Or in the case of my son he was Dear John’ed on his second tour of Afghanistan after only two years of bliss. He has not even attempted to date since then, 6 years ago. B_tch.
For that matter, what real woman wants to be "Julia"?
But, that is what is being pushed by the feminists, the government, the culture, and the law.
It's an unhappy and dysfunctional world out there when it is all about "me".
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,... So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:22-34)
What most are missing today is, this is not all about "me" - but that is the focus the world teaches. It is little wonder so many marriages and relationships are such a mess.
The above Scripture really goes against the grain of our human nature these days, doesn't it?
y’all should move to Utah
Makes me wonder what do boys being jointly raised by single moms and TV know about being husbands and fathers?
Sure, that's a part of it but that's not the main reason. There's not much incentive to get married anymore.
why Utah?
Twenty is young but I hope, not impossible. He has a decent job, works hard, and would do well with a good young woman. As homeschoolers our children were taught to plan to marry and prepare to marry.
Heartbreaking to hear that kids cannot think of being adults, or when they want to take their lives into their own hands early, the government forces them to stay in school and gives them no options. A girl who would have married early in the past, just has a kid now.
Ping
Only works if you love and respect mom and dad, too.
There should be no doubt about this in your minds, guys...there's an entitlement mentality among many of the "fairer sex" and it's not about your wishes or dreams. Merely thinking "What's in it for me?" is proof of depraved, immature, selfish, antisocial thinking. It's all right there.
Seriously?
Yes.
I take my role as the man, husband and father seriously from a Biblical (and biological for that matter) perspective.
I don't know that it's so much surprise as that it's totally out of their frame of reference. It's inconceivable a guy should ask, "What about me?"
Yet this entire social construct depends upon guys not asking that question. And those who have watched the feminist movement for the last 50 years are seemingly blind to the proposition...suppose men, as feminists did, decide the way things are doesn't work for them anymore?
As they increasingly are. They know not where they will go but they know they can't stay here.
Buckle your seatbelts, ladies...you ain't seen nothin' yet.
This is happening now.
The Democrat Party is having a massive hemorrhaging of straight males.
It will not be long before the “democrat party” is equal to “homosexual party”
God bless.
I lived my first years with that mindset. It came from a ball busting, man-hating mother and an absent father. After 18 years of hearing about how men were to blame for all the evils of the world, I reached a logical conclusion...that I was the key to a successful marriage.
That's stunted development, a continuation of the child's mindset that they are the center of the universe...and therefore all powerful. It's why they blame themselves when parents divorce.
Life has a way of educating all about their foolishness. It did so with me. May you be more fortunate.
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