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Posted on 03/22/2015 5:15:44 AM PDT by xzins
Heather Barwick, who was raised by her mother and her mother's lesbian partner, wrote in an essay this week that same-sex "marriage" is not the same as normal marriage between a man and a woman, that the traditional family is best, and that while growing up she "ached every day for a dad."
Heather Barwick, who was raised by her mother and her mother's lesbian partner, says "gay marriage" not only redefines marriage but also parenting and that "as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy." (Photo: The Federalist.)
Barwick, who is 31 now, married, and has four children, said that "same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn't matter. That it's all the same. But it's not."
"A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting," wrote Barwick in her essay for The Federalist website. "My father's absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom's partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost."
"I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a man," said Barwick. "Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy. It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community that says that men are unnecessary."
Barwick stressed that she loves her gay mother and gay people in general but that "the nature of the same-sex relationship" is what caused her to come out of her own closet and write the essay about why she does not support gay "marriage."
"Gay marriage doesn’t just redefine marriage, but also parenting," she says. "It promotes and normalizes a family structure that necessarily denies us something precious and foundational. It denies us something we need and long for, while at the same time tells us that we don’t need what we naturally crave. That we will be okay. But we’re not. We’re hurting."
The traditional man-woman marriage and family "can break down and cause kids to suffer," said Barwick, through "divorce, abandonment, infidelity, abuse, death, etc."
"But by and large, the best and most successful family structure is one in which kids are being raised by both their mother and father," she said.
Children of divorce can note how the divorce affected them, or adopted kids may yearn to know their biological parents, but children of same-sex parents do not have that "same voice."
"It’s not just me," said Barwick. "There are so many of us. Many of us are too scared to speak up and tell you about our hurt and pain, because for whatever reason it feels like you’re not listening. That you don’t want to hear."
"If we say we are hurting because we were raised by same-sex parents, we are either ignored or labeled a hater," she wrote.
At the end of her essay, Barwick appealed to the gay community and its apparent tolerance and openness to diverse ideas, stating, "I know this is a hard conversation. But we need to talk about it. If anyone can talk about hard things, it’s us. You taught me that."
According to her bio at The Federalist, Barwick is a "former gay-marriage advocate turned children's rights activist" and is "a wife and mother of four rambunctious kids."
I've been reading the prophets lately in my Bible reading. God does get angry with those who are vile, and He does punish them. Sodom isn't the only instance of God's anger with human beings. And He is especially hard on His own people. They should know better.
I have wondered for years why people cannot accept the fact that homosexuality is abnormal? It may or may not be normal for that individual, but it’s certainly abnormal for society.
It is not natural ever given the complementary design of the male and female bodies.
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This points at the key factor in the massive push for acceptance of the provision of children to homosexuals. A very substantial percentage of the population treats a child as if his only real quality is whether an adult wants him.
From abortion to unmarried parenthood to easy divorce to surrogacy to homosexual adoption, children are simply accessories to the desires of adults. If, at any point, a consensus emerges that adults, rather than having rights regarding children, instead have duties regarding children, the whole structure of rationalizations could collapse.
And then some people might feel badly about themselves and their "choices," and we can't have that, can we?
“According to her bio at The Federalist, Barwick is a “former gay-marriage advocate turned children’s rights activist” and is “a wife and mother of four rambunctious kids.”
No mention if she is ‘married’ to a man?
If there are no hard-wired feelings, then people are just malleable puppets who can be made like/love anything. Tradition and common sense are tossed out the window.
“Guns don’t kill people, Dads with pretty daughters kill people.”
Nailed it.
I do believe this person was inadvertently and effectively denied her right to the pursuit of happiness.
Anyone who says dads aren’t necessary should watch some of the many youtube videos of soldiers coming home unexpectedly and surprising their kids. Watch kid after kid burst into happy tears and race into Daddy’s arms, hugging him with all their might, and then tell me dads don’t matter.
The Gaystapo are full swing on this one. Wow, some of the sites that post this story are just flooded with the sickos, using all avenues of “studies” by the APA, etc., to just bring this down. It truly is war out there.
Thank you.
"Marriage" always means --- by definition--- a man and a woman.
Bath-house Barry agenda ping.
She also said she was formally an advocate for queer ‘marriage’. So it is unclear what she is marriage to.
bttt
parenting bump for later...
>> Then there will just be breeding units and government child care centers for the worker bees rearing.
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> The State is Mother. the State is Father.
“All within the state, nothing outside the state, nothing against the state.” — Benito Mussolini, 09 Dec 1928
Bkmk.
Very good posts and comments on the need of children for fathers.
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