Solution; States should get out of the marriage business. Let it become a religious cerimony or a federal contract.
For government purposes, what exactly is the definition of “marriage”, and why is there a vested state interest in treating people differently because they are married?
If the government is gonna eliminate the traditional meaning of the word “marriage” from the nation’s vocabulary, then they should take the issue to its logical conclusion and outlaw state recognition of ANY “marriage”. Anything besides that is arbitrary and dishonest.