Posted on 04/06/2014 7:30:19 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine
Women feel invisible to the opposite sex at the age of 51, it emerged yesterday.
A detailed study of 2,000 women revealed a large percentage felt they no longer received the level of attention they once did after hitting 51.
Many even went as far as to admit they felt ‘ignored’.
The women claimed their confidence plummeted after hitting 50 and blamed greying hair, having to to wear glasses or even struggling to find fashionable clothes.
The lifestyle study, commissioned by herbal remedies company, A.Vogel, also found more than two thirds of women over 45 had walked into a room and felt ‘completely unnoticed’ by the opposite sex.
More than half said they felt ‘left on the shelf’ and that they’d been ‘judged negatively’ because of their age.
Health expert Eileen Durward, who provides advice and support to women through the A.Vogel website and helpline, said: ”The results show a worrying decline in confidence and self-worth in women when faced with the prospect of growing older.
”The world can feel very geared toward appreciating younger women, leaving those of a certain age to feel neglected or less worthy.
“These women are not invisible and neither are their concerns.
”They are often the driving engine behind many a family, juggling careers, looking after older relatives and bringing up children.
”All the while dealing with the ageing process and changes brought on by the menopause.
”They need to be supported, not made to feel washed up.”
The study also found just 15 per cent of women over 45 could claim they had high or very high confidence while, sadly, nearly half described themselves as not very confident at all.
The biggest reason for a decline in self-belief was the feeling that their image had deteriorated.
A dejected four in ten said not getting attention from men like they used to was a factor, more than half had felt intimidated by the presence of younger women at a social event.
A concerned six in ten of the 2,000 studied felt modern life is geared toward a focus on younger women while 46 per cent thought that a lot of what older women go through wasn’t seen or spoken about.
The research also examined the effect the menopause has on women’s confidence as they age.
The results showed around one in five who had experienced menopausal symptoms had difficulty in finding answers to the questions they had about the changes they were facing.
In fact, only 13 per cent felt women were well supported in the lead up to the menopause.
The research, which also involved 500 men, showed many have a ‘head in the sand’ approach to the menopause.
Eileen Durward, who is also an expert on menopause, added: ”Women need to know they are not alone and there are things they can do to help themselves.
“Hot flushes are a good example of something that can have a real impact on confidence, especially in social situations or at work.
”Many women don’t realise that simple steps, like breathing slowly or taking a herbal remedy containing sage, can provide relief.”
You two should be flirting,too.
This makes me laugh!! My neighbor who is a Snowbird in FL informs me that the “villages” is home to the worst v.d.’s in the State! I don’t know if that is true or not ... But I sure do not want to retire there!
Like I said, I consider you a younger woman.
So, what do you think? :-)
Make a little dog break a big chain. Man ,that woman is beautiful.
That’s pretty funny!
When my wife and I were dating she told me that she would find it perfectly normal to point out women to me that she thought were attractive. Then one day we’re in Costco at Enumclaw and there was this woman with absolutely perfect breasts and I remembered my wife’s comment and said, (yes, I was that stupid), “That woman has perfect breasts.”
It was the last straw. She said to me, “I take back what I said, you have no problem noticing it all by yourself.”
The thing is, It was my innocence that allowed me to say it. If I was thinking, “Man that chick’s hot! I wonder if she’s single”, I’d have felt too guilty to say anything. But it was still amazingly stupid on a different level. She still brings it up every couple of years when something happens that kinda relates.
Bush’s fault?
Seeing that FReepathon graphic reminded me to keep Onyx & Doc in thoughts tonight . . .
I’ve heard that too. Google lists a bunch of dating sites. The Villages is a hotbed of conservatism too, pun intended.
But an old bag to others.
And guess what? It's so nice not to care. :)
I noticed this “invisibility” recently myself. Which I attribute to menopause and the cessation of ovulation. I just assumed it was biology based, lack of pheromones, etc. It doesn’t effect my confidence though because the reason some people lack self esteem is because I have it all (family joke).
I get a kick out of male reactions to my daughters though, who are at that prime stage where they can stop traffic and boys forget what they were about to say, drop stuff, walk into posts, etc. The best part is all the minions from the full service gas station swarming the car, cleaning the glass. I always make sure they drive when it’s time to fill up, so all the windows get extra clean. The girls are still young enough to be astonished and giggly about it. It’s fun and cute to watch.
One is very Lauren Bacall/Grace Kelly in looks and demeanor and the other is a red headed Vivian Leigh with a Doris Day personality.
It’s not a joke, it’s pay-back. When I was 25 I thought 30 was old...
‘I was in a store a while back buying some milk and this HOT lady in her fifties reached in the case and got 2% milk. I said “You’re a perfect advertisement for that.”’
I approached her in the checkout line, and said yo baby wassup?
She had two gallons of milk, and I was starin’ at her jugs.
Five minutes later she agreed to get with me
So we went and rocked the minivan like Giggity. Giggity. Giggity.
The 50s are definitely more challenging than the 40s were.
Aging older relatives destroying themselves and trying to take others with them is a distraction from it I guess.
found more than two thirds of women over 45 had walked into a room and felt ‘completely unnoticed’ by the opposite sex.unless they aren't married, why should that matter???
and if they aren't married, did they finally come to the conclusion that fish DO need bicycles???
Lucky you! I still hang with my 20 yr old stud muffin son and that is fun too!
Kids are great! Especially when they move out! We are having some fun now!
Lucky you! I still hang with my 20 yr old stud muffin son and that is fun too!
Kids are great! Especially when they move out! We are having some fun now!
There would be quite a difference I bet
As they say, Men age like fine wine, Women...... age like milk
Screw it. We had our day and it was a blast. No regrets, its the young kids time now. I’m an old man now and raising young kids. Nothing I ever did in life compares to this.Nothing.
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