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The “Mommy Wars” Are Over
Townhall.com ^ | December 30, 2013 | Rachel Alexander

Posted on 12/30/2013 5:09:11 AM PST by Kaslin

Women used to be faced with a dilemma: forgo a career to stay at home and raise children, or sacrifice the upbringing of your children in order to pursue a career. Since the 1960’s, feminists and conservatives have sparred over this choice. Feminists criticized mothers who stayed at home, claiming women could instead “have it all;” pursue a career while putting their kids in daycare. Conservatives criticized women who put their career first, correctly observing that a parent in the home raising the children is better for the children. This debate was known as the “mommy wars.”

The war is now essentially over and the feminists have won, although not because they were more persuasive. Only 12 percent of moms believe that working full time is an ideal situation for children, and 74 percent of adults say that mothers working outside the home makes it harder to raise children. About half of adults surveyed believe that children are better off if the mother does not work.

Yet today, only three in ten mothers do not work outside the home. The reason the feminists have won is because it is now difficult for men - as well as women - to make enough money from one job to support the entire family. As economic conditions continue to spiral down under Obama, employers have been forced to cut jobs, hours and benefits. Jobs that used to pay decently have been replaced by free student labor, or “internships.” Most parents are lucky to find full-time jobs that pay slightly better than minimum wage. There are fewer people working now than anytime within the past 35 years; only 63 percent of working-age Americans are in the workforce. At the same time, the cost of healthcare, gas, food and other necessities continues to increase.

The median annual household income across the U.S. in 2011 was $50,054. It is extremely difficult for a family of four or more to survive on that level of income. Many parents have student loans, credit card debt from a temporary loss of employment, or huge medical expenses from procedures not covered by insurance. Times have greatly changed since the Ward and June Cleaver era of the 1950’s; workers can no longer count on stable employment, and student loan costs have soared.

Attempting to be a stay-at-home mom on a husband’s meager salary is difficult. Low-income stay-at-home moms, where the annual household income is less than $36,000, report higher levels of unhappiness. Over half report they are struggling, and four percent say they are suffering. Only 46 percent say they are thriving.

Men no longer have more college education than women, making it less likely men will have a high income. Women now make up approximately half of the U.S. labor force. In 1970, they only accounted for 38 percent.

Compounding the problem is the increase in single parents. The number of households led by single mothers has more than tripled since 1960, to 25 percent of households. It is more expensive to support two households than one, not to mention all the additional ongoing legal costs from child support and custody battles. When parents divorce, even if one parent was making a decent income, everything becomes more expensive. In this area the feminists have won some ground; they have successfully removed the stigma of being a single parent, making it easier for parents to walk away from their marriages rather than try and work things out for the good of the children.

What does this mean for families and children? Children are spending more time in daycare and less time with their parents. Over 60 percent of children under age five are in some type of regular child care arrangement. According to research from the Heritage Foundation,

Numerous academic studies suggest that more hours spent in daycare in a child’s earliest years is associated with lower social competence and negative behavioral outcomes, and that these persist through childhood and adolescence. Greater amounts of time spent in non-maternal care and younger age of entry into daycare were associated with a greater likelihood of socio-emotional problems and lower cognitive skills. The cumulative effect of extensive daycare was associated with lower academic achievement and poorer emotional health. As one comprehensive study that tracked 1,300 children from infancy through age 15 found, the quality of daycare was significantly less important regarding social and emotional outcomes than the number of hours spent in daycare. The negative effects of day care were more persistent for children who spent long hours in center-care settings.

Additionally, children are learning values from someone who likely does not share the values of the parents, which is especially troubling for conservative parents. The feminists have pushed hard for this in the name of women’s rights and this is the result.

When the left finds itself losing on a particular issue, it finds a sneaky way instead to ram its agenda through. Having failed to convince women it is better to put their kids in daycare and work full time, Obama and the left are forcing them to do so by continuing the dismal economic conditions. This is just one of many issues Obama is forcing through by artificially extending the recession. The same can be said about Obamacare. Making healthcare unaffordable is opening the door for single-payer (socialist) healthcare.

The left’s ultimate goal of putting both parents in the workforce and their children in daycare has nothing to do with their pretense of “choice” for women. It has everything to do with gaining control over our children at a young age and indoctrinating them in the left’s values. Daycare regulations are increasing and soon parents will have very little control over what happens at them. The only way to stop this is to put conservatives back in power in order to revive the economy with adequate jobs. Times have changed, especially with more women going to college than men, and so the real choice should be whether the mother or father stays at home with the children.


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To: papertyger
The Bible tells us the curse God laid on women at The Fall was a desire to control her husband with a corresponding inability to make it "work."

Please show me where it says that in the Hebrew. My take on "tĕshuwqatah" in Gen. 3:16 is that she will hunger for food that he will provide, particularly in pregnancy and early child-rearing. Interestingly, the modern Hebrew term, "shuk" refers to a grocery store.

81 posted on 12/30/2013 3:26:09 PM PST by Carry_Okie (0-Care IS Medicaid; they'll pull a sheet over your head and take everything you own to pay for it.)
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To: 1010RD

> GDP is a terrible measure of national wealth.

^ Truth


82 posted on 12/30/2013 3:39:06 PM PST by jsanders2001
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To: papertyger
You keep studiously avoiding my "how" and injecting your "why."

I'm avoiding nothing. The "how" is providing leadership...aka good direction. Men are leading in the wrong direction...if they are leading at all. (There are still good men obviously who recognize and practice good leadership but the trend is the wrong one.)

Men are becoming more feminized, not less. This is because they are not choosing to lead. A leader whom people will follow has a beneficial direction in mind for followers. Porn and gay rights is not the right direction and this is what is taking place...this is not the fault of women. Men are choosing this themselves.

The feminization of men will never lead to good leaders. Woman will not submit to bad leadership.

83 posted on 12/30/2013 3:45:13 PM PST by what's up
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To: Carry_Okie
My take on "tĕshuwqatah" in Gen. 3:16 is that she will hunger for food that he will provide, particularly in pregnancy and early child-rearing.

Then how do you explain Gen. 4:7?

84 posted on 12/30/2013 4:14:29 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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To: what's up

I’m not going to bother “playing army” with the kid who shouts “YOU MISSED” when I’ve got my finger in his ear.


85 posted on 12/30/2013 4:18:01 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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To: papertyger
Then how do you explain Gen. 4:7?

The same way. Solomon had it all wrong, as usual.

That chapter took two years' worth of translation work btw, and my explanation of that verse alone goes on for eight pages. So don't get me started because I won't answer until I publish it. The existing interpretation of Gen 4 makes a mess of the Hebrew.

What I can tell you is that the interpretation I dug out of the Hebrew in Gen. 2:5- Genesis 9 is reflected in both the archaeological and geophysical records for the entire region, from Persia to Morocco, starting about 11-12,000 years ago. It unifies with the entire Torah, especially the Sabbath for the Land as interpreted literally in Ex. 23:11. Wrote a whole book about that, one that I pulled from the market because I had found so much more in the same pastoral vein.

86 posted on 12/30/2013 4:57:17 PM PST by Carry_Okie (0-Care IS Medicaid; they'll pull a sheet over your head and take everything you own to pay for it.)
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To: Carry_Okie

Except for one little problem, your interpretation can hardly be termed a “curse.”


87 posted on 12/30/2013 5:02:09 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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To: papertyger
Except for one little problem, your interpretation can hardly be termed a “curse.”

lol, in whose judgment? It certainly was in terms of her ambitions. Think of what it is to "know" good and evil in the Biblical sense of yud-dalet-ayn.

88 posted on 12/30/2013 5:13:06 PM PST by Carry_Okie (0-Care IS Medicaid; they'll pull a sheet over your head and take everything you own to pay for it.)
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To: Carry_Okie
lol, in whose judgment? It certainly was in terms of her ambitions.

Anyone who has a normative understanding of the term "curse."

Furthermore, are you really willing to strain your credibility by proposing a desire of which there is no empirical evidence?

89 posted on 12/30/2013 5:20:16 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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To: papertyger
Anyone who has a normative understanding of the term "curse."

People have normative understanding of singulars and plurals too, but they ignore them all in their "normative understanding" of Genesis 4. They think G_d is saying that Cain can "rule over" sin in 4:7, right after saying that sin is "couching." They ignore the lack of a definite article in "bereshit" Genesis 1:1. They ignore the usual meaning of "bara" in that verse too. Then they build an entire "creation science" on it. So, you want me to go by "normative understanding"? Sheesh. People had a "normative understanding" of Ex. 23:11 too, but since my book on the topic even the Chabad.org website has changed its translation of the verse to agree with mine. At least you can find physical evidence of my interpretation in the archaeological record, and it fits the literal Hebrew better than the existing "normative understanding." But first one must dump an urban intellectual rabbi's interpretation of a book written by a shepherd that was then ignored for 500 years!

Try taking the Hebrew as literally as possible. Use a lexicon and a concordance. Dump the fliers and narrow the interpretations. Believe that what was written was true but that we may not see what it says the way it was intended. Try to put yourself into the perspective of a pastoral nomad while you're at it (seeing as Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, and David were all shepherds). You'll be amazed at what you'll find. Try this and maybe you'll see what I mean.

Furthermore, are you really willing to strain your credibility by proposing a desire of which there is no empirical evidence?

"No empirical evidence?" People do need to eat. They do have sex to procreate (you know, "yada"). The next verse is about pregnancy and pain. Then she must rear children. So what is inconsistent about talking about the consequences of that? She wanted to "know..." good and evil... Well, she got it all righty. If you wanted to understand Genesis 4, you might just think about what I just wrote in that context.

G_d's not a big fan of agro-urban civilization. That's but one reason why "the meek" were the first to be told about Messiah's birth.

90 posted on 12/30/2013 5:43:43 PM PST by Carry_Okie (0-Care IS Medicaid; they'll pull a sheet over your head and take everything you own to pay for it.)
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To: Carry_Okie; PowerBaby

Utterly awesome. Well done and very impressive.


91 posted on 12/30/2013 5:47:54 PM PST by 1010RD (First, Do No Harm)
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To: Kaslin

” Jobs that used to pay decently have been replaced by free student labor, or “internships.””

BS

They were replaced by temp agencies who employ illegals.


92 posted on 12/30/2013 5:50:20 PM PST by icwhatudo (Low taxes and less spending in Sodom and Gomorrah is not my idea of a conservative victory)
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To: Carry_Okie

Spot on and good analysis.


93 posted on 12/30/2013 5:51:30 PM PST by 1010RD (First, Do No Harm)
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To: Carry_Okie
"No empirical evidence?" People do need to eat.

But that's not what you said. Apparently you infer some kind of drive to have one's husband provide that food.

Frankly, your interpretation of the curse is a tautology, at best.

I won't pretend you have anywhere near your background, but I am also not willing to throw out the traditional understanding, which does work, on the word of a scholar that seems to presume to rewrite the Torah. Particularly when many Christian scholars have found much validation in the "discrepancies" you seek to harmonize.

94 posted on 12/30/2013 6:12:42 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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To: Carry_Okie
The same way. Solomon had it all wrong, as usual.

Care to elaborate?

95 posted on 12/30/2013 6:16:58 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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To: papertyger
Care to elaborate?

Nope.

96 posted on 12/30/2013 6:45:49 PM PST by Carry_Okie (0-Care IS Medicaid; they'll pull a sheet over your head and take everything you own to pay for it.)
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To: papertyger
Particularly when many Christian scholars have found much validation in the "discrepancies" you seek to harmonize.

The work has been reviewed by Orthodox Jewish rabbis in Israel. They found it compelling, innovative, and linguistically correct.

Frankly, your interpretation of the curse is a tautology, at best.

So say you.

97 posted on 12/30/2013 6:47:17 PM PST by Carry_Okie (0-Care IS Medicaid; they'll pull a sheet over your head and take everything you own to pay for it.)
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To: papertyger

I have no idea where your finger is but it is definitely nowhere near my ear lol.

You’re losing the debate because you don’t acknowledge the tendency very plain to most that men generally have softened. Its allowed the feminists to grab the reins and is destroying the family.


98 posted on 12/30/2013 10:31:39 PM PST by what's up
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To: what's up
You’re losing the debate because you don’t acknowledge the tendency very plain to most that men generally have softened. Its allowed the feminists to grab the reins and is destroying the family.

How am I losing the debate when you just admitted feminists have grabbed the reins?

How were men supposed to keep the reins when a woman's vote counts for just as much as a man's, and there are more women than men?

It's easy to throw stones at the people who can't do anything about a problem. So you tell me how some hardnose guy convinces a woman to choose something he wants her to do instead of what she wants to do.

99 posted on 12/31/2013 6:51:36 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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To: Carry_Okie
Nope.

That's a pretty flippant answer when you're claiming to know better than the biblical personage famous for his wisdom and understanding of dark sayings.

100 posted on 12/31/2013 6:57:05 PM PST by papertyger ("refusing to draw an inescapable conclusion does not qualify as a 'difference of opinion.'")
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