My husband is a pastor who gets lots of calls for help from this or that person who can’t pay their electric bill or needs gas to get to the next town. There’s a Ministerial Association that has a fund for those kinds of things but there was nothing in that fund for a lot of the year this past year. I know of some instances where he’s given from our personal money to help these people but I doubt I know all of them.
And he knows some of what I’ve pitched in for work or youth group or whatever but, again, I’m sure he doesn’t know all of it.
We’re just finishing up Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University so we’ll be keeping closer tabs, but it’s going to take some real work to get where we document everything to each other.
So even though the headlines make it seem like a terrible thing for Cain to have helped this gal without his wife knowing, I can say as a pastor’s wife that it happens all the time and doesn’t necessarily mean a thing, although it could also mean something. And my situation is where our finances are tight. I can imagine it would be even more likely to happen where a pastor has plenty of money, like the Cains do.
How much money are we talking about here? How many men of Cain’s means discuss that monetary amount with their wives before spending that amount? We don’t know, and those details make a big difference.
What I can see - just based on the “article” that Drudge has as his banner right now - is that somebody is trying to get rid of Cain. The “article” was basically commentary saying that Cain should give up. I’d like to see where Cain “acknowledged” that his fundraising dried up when the allegations first came out. He was bringing in millions when the first allegations came out. And his public statements have been that he is in it to win, and that he has gotten a LOT of positive support since the latest allegations as well. They make it sound like he’s still deciding, when he has said he’s already decided. So that “article” seems like a hit piece to me, and it’s making me angry.
Do you think the amount of communication going on between the two was correct and proper? Normal?
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According to the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, the records show extensive and repeated communication between Cain and White. White texted Cain 70 times just in weeks between October 22 and November 18, at all hours of the night. Cain reportedly texted White 17 times, mostly in response to her messages.
I understand and very much appreciate your sharing your experience and point of view. It certainly offered a different perspective then I had considered. I do hope if nothing is inappropriate that he stays in the game.