Posted on 07/13/2011 9:43:33 AM PDT by freespirited
If you've ever spent time telling a guy a story or asking him a question, only to get a blank stare in response, then you know that there's definitely truth to this claim that guys weren't designed to hear us speak. I had a similar experience at brunch this weekend when I was going on and on to a male friend about something I can't even remember anymore. When I got to the end of my rant and finally asked him if he agreed with me on the topic at hand, his answer was, "sorry, I really wasn't listening to a word you said."
Even though I was incredibly frustrated with him, he did bring up a good point, asking, "would you rather I lie and say I heard you?" This little exchange, as insignificant as it was, did make me wonder exactly what it is that makes it so easy for men to tune us out.
As it turns out, a study published in the journal NeuroImage sought to answer the very same question. Researchers found that there are major differences in the way male and female brains process voice sounds. Different brain regions are activated in men, depending on whether they're hearing a male or female voice.
Apparently, the vibration and number of sound waves in our voice makes it harder for men to decipher what we're saying. When it comes to processing a woman's voice, they use the more complex auditory part of the brain that processes music, not human voices. But the guys in the study could easily hear and understand other mens voices as speech because that uses a simpler brain mechanism at the back of the brain.
So, next time you want to get angry and yell at a guy for "not listening," cut him a little slack his brain just wasn't made to hear you. My suggestion would be to speak slowly and get to your point fast.
Yes, LOL, I think I do. My Garmin’s Brit English female is named Serena and I certainly can understand your description of “blackboards mating”. So very apt. My default American English chick is Samantha who seems to have a perpetual mad-on.
Thanks for the ping!
Awww, you’re hittin’ on me, aren’t you, sweetie?
Simpler? My butt muscles. More efficient, not simpler.
Another factor is that as we get older, we lose some hearing in the higher frequency ranges that are needed to hear parts of the female voice (2,000 to 4,000 Hz). It isn't so much that we don't want to listen, but that we can't hear the sounds of certain letters and letters combinations from female voices as well.
(Some sounds of letters & combos: g, h, p, m, v, f, g, ng, t, ch, sh, s)
Me takem you back to cave. Got kitchen ready for you. You makem heap big sammich!
Actually that should have been IF she gets to the point...happens maybe 10% of the time.
LOL - “get out in that kitchen, and rattle those pots and pans”, you say?
I can’t cook worth a shit, but I have a good enough income to take you out somwhere really nice. Maybe I’ll buy you a little something shiny, too. :-*
Oh, but wait. I’m as old as dirt. ;-)
Fishing lures work, they're nice and shiny! I could use a new baitcaster while you're at it...
It would never work between us though, I already have one wife and I'm not a mormon glutton for punishment. I'll take the shiny things though! ;)
Also just noticed that you’re from Raleigh, NC. My mom’s side of the family is from Sparta, NC and over in Thurman, NC. Absolutely beautiful country down there, been there several times.
You are too funny! Yes NC is beautiful, but here in the flatlands “Triangle” most of the trees have been bulldozed now and replaced w/mcmansions and asphalt. God’s work is still evident just a couple of hours away in either direction, though. :-)
Be nice to that wife, you have to go to sleep sometime. :-P
INDEED.
I know that feeling and experience.
At which point . . . since the woman is engaging in
PSEUDO-CONVERSATION
I figure it’s quite kosher
to engage in
PSEUDO-LISTENING.
His and Her Diary
HER DIARY
Tonight I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment.
Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong; he said nothing. I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry.
On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving.
I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say I love you too. When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched T.V.
He seemed distant and absent.
Finally, I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed, and to my surprise he responded to my caress and we made love, but I still felt that he was distracted and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.....................
My life is a disaster.
HIS DIARY
Today the Packers lost, but at least I got laid.
I don't know if this theory is true or not, but it seems possible.
How much did you have to tip him to do that?
God made me this way. God made THEM that way, and put hormones into the mix.
Just another example of the perfection of creation!
Now leave Sarah out of this...she’s a hottie, has brains, and is a Gun Girl.
She’s ALMOST the “Perfect Woman”. Hahah!
Add one more:
4) Bring you the Sam Adams while nekkid...
Therrrrrre ya go!!
you’ll listen alright or you will be sorry!
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