Posted on 12/28/2010 7:18:34 AM PST by Kaslin
In my previous column, I offered an answer to the question: What do men want?
I made the case that what men most want from the woman they love is to be admired.
If my answer is correct, and if we presume that the natures of men and women are complementary (a presumption many men and women understandably doubt given how often men and women do not get along), what women most want must be related to that which men most want.
I believe it is.
What a woman most wants is to be loved by a man she admires.
I am well aware that to say this today is akin to announcing that the sun revolves around the Earth. For half a century, we have been told that what women most want is professional success and equality. And to the extent that a modern "liberated" woman does admit to wanting a man to love, she will say that she wants a "partner" who is her "equal." And girls and women have been told -- or, more accurately, have had drummed into them -- that equality means that both sexes are essentially the same (except for the physical differences) and therefore want the same things. Equality and sameness have been rendered synonymous. That is why she cannot say -- and ideally wouldn't even admit to herself -- that she wants a man to admire; that would be "sexist," as it would imply an unequal relationship.
The notion that a woman most wants a man, admirable or not, has been scoffed at. This was encapsulated by the famous feminist slogan "A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle." Even feminism that did not agree with the fish-bicycle metaphor communicated to young women that an "authentic" woman would not have as her greatest desire to bond with a man.
Today, feminism holds less appeal for young women than it did for the previous generation, but "equality" remains the liberal god of the day. That renders my theory -- that a woman wants to be cherished by a man she admires -- politically incorrect in the extreme.
It is problematic enough to say that a woman most wants a man. But that pales compared to the claim that she most wants a man whom she admires. That seems to affirm gender inequality. The image it conjures up is of a woman looking up to her man as if he were some sort of lord and she his serf.
Yet, any woman who believes that she is married to an admirable man would laugh at such a dismissal. Admiring one's husband doesn't render a woman a serf. It renders her fortunate.
The truth is that almost nothing -- including job success -- elevates a woman in her own eyes as much as being loved by a husband whom she admires. That is why when married women get together, they don't talk about their jobs nearly as much as men do. They talk, among other things, about their man if they are proud of him, and complain about him if they are not. Even most feminists are happiest when married to a man they admire.
And what is it that women most admire in a man? From decades of talking to women on the radio and, of course, from simply living life, I have concluded that an admirable man is one who has three qualities: strength, integrity and ambition.
All three are needed. Strength without integrity is machismo. Integrity without strength or without ambition is a milquetoast. And ambition without integrity is a successful crook.
Women are drawn to strong men. Though many men, when asked the secret to their long marriage, answer, "I learned to always say, 'Yes, Dear,'" the truth is that most women are not attracted to "Yes, Dear" men who always give in to a woman's whim. They are attracted to a man who exhibits strength in the outer world and at home as husband and father.
But that strength must come with integrity. If it doesn't, he is a strong bad man. And while more than a few women fall for bad men (precisely because of the power of masculine strength to attract women), most women do not want such a man over the long run.
And ambition does not mean that he is necessarily rich, but that he is a hard worker who wants to improve himself; plenty of men who earn relatively little are admired and loved by their wives. That is why a major "turn-off" to most women is a husband who sits and watches television all night (let alone all day).
The beauty of all this is that it all comes together for men, for women and for society.
Women get what they want most: to be married to and loved by a man they admire. Men then attain what they want most: to be admired by the woman they love. And society gets the thing it most needs: admirable men.
Unfortunately, none of this is taught at college.
Here is the thread discussing WHAT DO MEN WANT?
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/2645791/posts
By the same writer: Dennis Prager
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No,but it is taught in the Word of God.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25)
Is it OK to be a Masulinist?.. to offset Feminism..
According to Fred Reed, men are pretty much content to let men be men and women be women, while many, many women want everyone to become women. I think Fred is correct.
Lol - come on, we’re not all like that. You sound a tad jaded.
I do think its love. Women are not interested in anything else from a man. If he can love her, its enough for them.
Frankly I have no idea what women want.
It seems to change day by day, maybe even hour by hour.
It also seems to me that men are a lot easier to please and perhaps a lot more easy going (some would say this translates into laziness slothfulness and laxity and I am sure an argument could be made to that effect).
These days women seem to be a lot more ambitious than men. Their numbers in schools and universities are increasing. Women also seem to be choosing more productive and challenging careers than men such as in the computer, medical and scientific areas.
Of course, the state of the national economy and its effects may be what is behind all of this.
But men should not make the mistake of taking this situation lying down. Men need to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and get it together. Men should take a page out of the female playbook and stop being wusses and pussies.
Just sayin’.
I nominate this thread for the “Gayest Thread of the Year” award..
I hope you are being sarcastic.
Can you give me the reason why?
Wives, respect your husbands.
Husbands, love your wives.
That’s pretty much it.
There is the curse, however, and we see it manifest in modern feminism. “Your desire will be for your husband [your husband’s role, that is], and he will rule over you.”
Please don’t take this personally, or the wrong way, or anything.
With all due respect, you are full of shit.
That is an absolutely shameful thing to say. And a regrettable commentary on the kind of women you seem to run into, for some odd reason.
I had also posted the article, but from Townhall.com. I remember by the replies that were given many didn’t read the article and the same is happening with this article too
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