This story is a red herring.
"The principle for which we contend is bound to reassert itself, though it may be at another time and in another form."
-- Jefferson Davis President CSA
The mistake Jeff Davis and Co. made was to allow themselves to be goaded into firing on Ft. Sumter.
I like your flag. Looks kinda like the one we’ve got right over here:)
I try to think of it like a divorce. We joined together in this union, but you became to oppressive, so we are leaving. You can keep the dependents, I wont even fight you for them, I just want out. Maybe after the divorce, we can be friends.