Posted on 03/30/2009 9:21:18 AM PDT by julieee
Washington, DC -- Some women decide to have abortions because they think having a baby will contribute to problems in their relationship with their husband or boyfriend. However, a new national study finds abortion causes more future relationship problems than carrying the pregnancy to term and parenting.
Dr. Priscilla Coleman, a professor of Human Development and Family Studies at Bowling Green State University headed up the study.
"For both men and women the experience of an abortion in a previous relationship was related to negative outcomes in the current relationship," they write.
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I know only a small number of women who have ever had abortions, that I know of.
None of them have had particularly happy personal lives.
I suspect the abortion doesn’t cause the problem (in most cases) but the problems caused the woman to get an abortion, and probably more women who are likely to become accidentally pregnant when they are not prepared to have a baby and are willing to abort are also the type who get into bad relationships in the first place.
If only the schools had some sort of educational program that taught kids where babies come from...
Accidentally pregnant? How ... by rolling over into the ... oh, nevermind.
Thanks for the post, julieee. There is a great prayer campaign going on right now across America called 40 Days for Life.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2217897/posts
I think it’s from sitting on toilet seats, but I’m not positive.
Maybe, and correlation doesn’t prove its own cause, but there are so many correlations between abortion and various negative physical, psychological, and social outcomes that the argument of “They were just like that all along,” isn’t all that impressive, except to those for whom, “Killing your unborn child is a meaningless act,” is an article of faith.
It all came together for me when I found out that my Borderline Personality ex-wife had two abortions before our marriage. Rightfully she figured that I would not have married her had I known that fact. Unfortunately her bizarre behavior continues as she vacillates between being a professional mistress or a homewrecker.
I hope you’re not including me in that statement. I simply think we have to be cautious about using info like this. Killing babies is wrong because killing babies is wrong.
Lack of road map of life will do that.
I would respectfully disagree. I have personally known a few young women who have had ONE abortion after an unplanned pregnancy. They were not tramps nor were they the types that look for bad boys. They were deeply in love with someone and thought the guy felt the same. In some cases they were right and in some they were wrong. In the cases where they were right the decision is often made because they are convinced they can not tell their parents they are pregnant even if the young man is willing and ready to marry them. They feel the an abortion will take care of the problem and everything will go back to the way it was. Those who are wrong about the guy usually feel depressed, betrayed and that they have no alternative. In both cases when they go to the “Women’s Health Center” they are told an abortion fixes everything. This is how PPH makes their money. These are for the most part nice young women who made a mistake and then compound it by making a much bigger one. A lot of these young women end up with just the problems mentioned in this article. Very few relationships, even the most loving ones, survive an abortion. Regardless of how much they love each other if the couple makes it a year they are beating the odds. The crap the PPH sells to young women at taxpayer expense is a crime and you only hope that someday they will get their just “rewards” for all the loss, pain and suffering they have caused.
I am not saying that your scenario does not exist, it does. I am just asking you not to paint every women who gets an abortion with such a wide brush. Often times on FR people take a real holier than thou attitude on these threads. I would hope for a little more understanding and compassion. Every story is different.
You're going to heaven, my FRiend, because you've done your time in Hell. OMG. All my sympathy to you.
I never said they were tramps. Reread my post. I stand by what I wrote. (and note I didn’t say all or everyone).
Young women who have unprotected sex with a man they are not ready to have children with (and who they know ALSO is ready and willing ot have children)may be nice as all get out, but they are not using their heads. We can feel sorry for them (I do) but I’m not going to excuse their behavior, because it has consequences beyond themselves. And I’m not going to blame PPH for the woman’s decision. They are not dragged in there off the street.
I have plenty of compassion and understanding,but making excuses for people’s bad decisions isn’t compassion. It’s enabling. I save the greatest part of my compassion for the babies who are the totally innocent victims. Everyone else in the scenario had the ability to make a decision.
Gee shocker...once you decide to commit murder you are so far off the reservation it is no wonder the study is showing this.
I wonder how many murderers go on to having productivity happy lives...
No, it was just a generalization. *Every* mention of a correlation of abortion with a negative outcome brings some dismissals ... "They were just the kind of person to have breast cancer, future miscarriages, depression, alcoholism, suicide attempts, etc., etc.,"
One item by itself might be a legitimate case of "selection bias," as I think they said in statistics class, but dozens of items VERY strongly suggests a causal link.
I do think abortion has negative consequences for the woman.
Well I am happy, I have very good mental health, I have two lovely adult children, wonderful grandchildren, a loving husband of 27 years, loving parents, in-laws, cousins, uncle, aunts and more wonderful good friends than I can count and no badness on my life from having an abortion one time in my life.
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