My seventeen yr old grandaughter is pregnant, too. We just found out. She is an only child. She had a very good upbringing by very good and loving parents and extended family. She is a decent girl, very mature and kind and gentle. She and her boyfriend chose not to get married right now. She has 1 more yr of HS and she has already filled out her papers for college. Her boyfriend is very supportive financially and emotionally. They are going to be ok.
That’s why I think most people have an understanding about this. If we haven’t been there we know someone who has. My best friend (other than my husband ;)) got married young because his girlfriend was pregnant. That baby is now a beautiful, intelligent, talented young lady and I know he is happy he made the right decision.
The odds are against them, Becky. No education, no job skills, no life commitment, and a baby on the way.
My prayers are with you beckysueb and with your daughter and all those involved. May this situation bring unforseen blessings into your life.
My life seemed ripped to shreds when my daughter became pregnant. I thought her life was over. Little did I realize then, that her life was just beginning. Of course her life was much harder than I would have wanted it to be, but she has been a good daughter and a good mother.
Life isn’t always under our control. Sometimes difficulties come through choices, but fate happens to us all. My daughter’s second son was diagnosed with leukemia when he was only three years old. THIS was a genuine tragedy - her early, unplanned, previous pregnancy paled in comparison. I simply wished I had known more at that time in my life so that I could have given her the love my daughter needed and deserved.
Love your daughter beckysueb, you will never regret it!
I don’t mean to use you particularly as the reason for my comments, but since you are in a similar situation, maybe you can lend me the benefit of your experience.
Why in the world is adoption not being mentioned? It’s not even been mentioned by the most rabid posters on this thread.
Of course it is not in the best interests of a child to be raised by teens, no matter what the support system. There are so many wonderful married, mature couples waiting for a healthy baby to love. Why don’t these young people consider adoption?