Posted on 07/08/2008 7:50:56 AM PDT by flowerplough
"Sometimes, a term of endearment can be anything but endearing.
"I had this manager who … started referring to me as 'honey,'" recalls May Snowden, former chief diversity officer for both Starbucks and Eastman Kodak Co. (one of DiversityInc's 25 Noteworthy Companies), who is now a consultant for Creative Wealth Alliance. "[It was] when I took my first director position. I was in a male-dominated job in the telecommunications industry and I did not want to embarrass him in front of his peers, so I invited him to my office and indicated that 'I won't call you sweetie if you won't call me honey.' We had that little conversation and he stopped. He was really embarrassed, [and because] he calls his wife, his daughters and other women 'honey', he did not even think about it."
"We all come to the table with biases and histories and upbringings in life that give us a perspective that may have 20, 30 years behind it," says Sherry Nolan, vice president of diversity and organizational capabilities at Pepsi Bottling Group..."
(The List:
Any kind of sexual comment
"You don't really want that promotion. You'll never see your kids."
"You'll get the job because you're a woman" or "You must be the token woman"
"What's the matter, is it that time of the month?"
"You're very attractive [or pretty, or beautiful, etc.]"
"You look great for your age" or "Do you use Botox?"
"You do that so well … for a girl."
"When are you due?")
(Excerpt) Read more at diversityinc.com ...
And as to "You'll get the job because you're a woman", the multi-global corporation that exploits my labor forces managers-in-training to echo back: "All else being equal, we must always promote the woman or minority first."
In other words, she was being paid to be female. What a nothing job.
“I have a bone-us for you” - Not a good idea.
In other words, she was being paid to be female. What a nothing job.
And she does not have it any more.
LOL
So she had a do-nothing makework job and she's surprised her male underlings didn't respect her?
“So, did being a bitch help you land this job or have you just gotten better at it with age?”
Of all the things I could get upset about, being called “honey” is not one of them. It depends on the delivery, but honey is most often a term of endearment. Why are people so easily offended?
“For a fat girl you don’t sweat a lot.”
Do you mind if I call you Dick
Actually, it’s being paid to be a faultfinder. Most faultfinders do it for free.
Mostly BS, but occasionally a valid issue.
Would you like to have an officer selected on the basis of “diversity” to be appointed your son's or daughter's commanding officer or the most qualified????
Why would it be so different in the business community? It's only your bottom line on the line, instead of your actual bottom....
Foolishness and destructive practices when viewed closely.
On the other hand, I expect everyone to treat each other as they should be treated (as you would like to be treated-as long as you are a moral ethical decent person....)
God Bless & MOLON LABE
Heh.
Or, due to the pervasiveness of the Offended Incorporated Thought Police, unleashed by Donna Shalala and her acolytes, be like me and don’t say anything to anybody.
It makes for a great work day... doesn’t it? /s
I’ve been called “honey”, “dear”, “sweetie”, etc. by women at work plenty of times. Some people are just like that. Clue: Don’t read anything into it that isn’t actually there.
“Iron my shirt.”
“I’ll bet you were kinda hot back in college.”
“You don’t sweat much for a fat girl.”
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