I’m no fan of today’s glitz weddings, but I can see a point here. The bride (or her family) pays for all this stuff including the bridesmaid outfits. These things are arranged months in advance.
What chaos I can only imagine would befall an already frazzled bride and her mother, to find out the week of the big event that the maid-of-honor can no longer fit the dress.
IF that were true, I'd agree, except that it's still very rude. But the truth is, most bridesmaids "get" to pay for the gowns themselves. Just part of the joy, buying every expensive hideous dresses we'll never wear again.
I wish it was customary for brides to pay for it.
I have yet to have a bride pay for my bridesmaid outfit. Although I did pay for all my bridesmaids dresses, well my parents did.
I have never had a bride pay for my dress. I paid for every dress myself and NEVER wore them again because they were too dorky
I never had any of the three brides I attended offer to pay one cent for the dress they requested I wear for them, nor particular shoes that had to be dyed-to-match as well. The only thing in my ensemble that was provided at no expense was the floral hairpiece the first time, the bouquet the three. And the GROOM in each case paid for those, his obligation to pay for the flowers.