Posted on 02/24/2008 5:23:22 AM PST by Huntress
Bridesmaids may soon be forced to sign contracts agreeing not to put on weight or get pregnant before a friend's wedding.
One in five brides-to-be is so concerned that her bridesmaids might let her down that she would ask her maid-of-honour to sign a written "pre-nuptial agreement", according to a new poll.
A bridesmaid contract is the latest American-style trend for brides
Despite the fact that 61 per cent of brides picked a best friend as their choice of bridesmaid and 49 per cent chose their sister, 48 per cent would sack a bridesmaid who failed to stick to the rules.
The survey of 1,000 women, commissioned by You & Your Wedding magazine, asked women which clauses they would put in their contract.
It found that respondents' biggest gripes were with bridesmaids who put on weight, became pregnant or changed their hairstyles before the big day.
A series of suggested clauses included that bridesmaids should not consume more than 10 units of alcohol or make any advances towards "inappropriate male guests" - or the groom.
Many women who had already married reported stories of their bridesmaids letting them down on their big day.
One woman said her maid-of-honour left her dress at a service station on the way to the wedding after deciding she didn't like it, while another revealed a bridesmaid had left 30 invitations unsent in her desk drawer.
Colette Harris, editor of You & Your Wedding magazine, said: "Planning weddings can be a stressful time for brides and while our contract is meant to be tongue-in-cheek, the survey demonstrates that issues with bridesmaids are of concern to many readers.
"Perhaps official contracts are the way forward for brides struggling to keep the peace."
Siobhàn Craven-Robins works with hundreds of brides a year in her role as wedding planner and has organised the weddings of celebrity clients including Joan Collins and Barbara Windsor.
"There has been a spoof contract like this on the internet in recent years but I'm not sure if the brides I know would actually use the real thing," she said.
The bridesmaid's contract is the latest American-style trend for brides. It follows the opening in Berkshire of the country's first bridal boot camp for women determined to shape up to fit into their dresses.
Trudy Dixon, the director of Bridal Boot Camp, said while many of the bridesmaids that work out at the boot camp had complained about the colour or style of the dresses chosen for them, few brides she knew would resort to such draconian measures to keep their ladies in line.
"I've been a bridesmaid several times and if I was presented with a contract, I would suggest they found another friend to do the job" she said.
Listen Newbie, I don’t know what meds you missed today, but I happen to know Eaker and his wife, and you don’t have a f#%king clue what you are talking about.
Since you think cheating and killing your child by giving them AIDS when you gave it to their mother is okay?
Appy,
If the wife that kerrywoods keeps a secret sends you cookies don’t eat them. Either they are poisoned or she is hitting on you. I would prefer the poison.
tHEY BOTH ABUSE THEIR WIVES THEY BOTH ADMITTED THEY THINK CHEATING IS OKAY WHICH IS ABUSE.
What are you talking about?
eAKER SAYS ITS OKAY TO CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE IF SHE GAINS WEIGHT.
IF HE DOESNT BEAT HER HE THINKS ITS OKAY TO DO SO.
Take a deep breath - shake your hands or something because you are obviously about to stroke out here. You’ve been on FR a whole 3 or 4 months and have no idea when someone is kidding around.
APPY AND EAKER both said if a woman gains weight her husband is justified in finding the nearest whore and cheating.
Sorry I’ve seen women die of AIDS from cheating husbands. I;ve also seen babies die of AIDS contracted from their mothers.
When you see that and some scumbag justify cheating you see red.
And when people admit the vows people take MEAN NOTHING it makes me mad.
I know Eakers wife - I rarely see any marks on her and hey, if he insists she stay at 103 pounds then that is his business. She isn’t all that hungry all day.
I am rescinding my offer to send your shrink a check.
I will not throw money at a lost cause.
That's a good point.
Unless the bride and groom aren't planning to have any children.
My wife isn’t a 103 pounds.
She is however the woman that I want to continue to grow old with. When I look at her she is still 25 years old and makes my heart go pitter patter. She always will too.
It is a shame that kerrywoods has to keep his wife a secret. However that is her problem not ours.
You take care!
You take care as well. I just couldn't resist a bit of teasing.
fat people are gross and the bible says gluttony is a sin
I was best man at a wedding where that might have helped. She was a total sweetheart, but she somehow decided that being married meant that she could stop dieting. She put on about 10 lbs. per month over the next six months. They divorced in under two years.
obesity and mental illness are intertwined
Hello sunshine this is Eaker’s son... I wasn’t sure you would be able to figure that out. Not that ever one on this website doesn’t already know this but my pops is a great man. He has always been there for my mother, my little sister, and myself. When ever any of us have had a problem he was the first we called because he is a good husband and father. To think that he would ever cheat on my mother or ever have anything but love for is children is ludicrous. Just wanted to set that straight for you.
Sounds lovely, and I’m glad you’ve had a happy marriage. Lots of folks don’t anymore. It’s all glam and no substance. Your father must be a great man!
I’m always the soloist. At least I used to be. Now I just buy a gift and sit in the audience. It’s just as well. Glad you had decided to wear the same dress! How lucky is that???
This explains why I am so freaking sore all the time.
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