Posted on 02/24/2008 5:23:22 AM PST by Huntress
Bridesmaids may soon be forced to sign contracts agreeing not to put on weight or get pregnant before a friend's wedding.
One in five brides-to-be is so concerned that her bridesmaids might let her down that she would ask her maid-of-honour to sign a written "pre-nuptial agreement", according to a new poll.
A bridesmaid contract is the latest American-style trend for brides
Despite the fact that 61 per cent of brides picked a best friend as their choice of bridesmaid and 49 per cent chose their sister, 48 per cent would sack a bridesmaid who failed to stick to the rules.
The survey of 1,000 women, commissioned by You & Your Wedding magazine, asked women which clauses they would put in their contract.
It found that respondents' biggest gripes were with bridesmaids who put on weight, became pregnant or changed their hairstyles before the big day.
A series of suggested clauses included that bridesmaids should not consume more than 10 units of alcohol or make any advances towards "inappropriate male guests" - or the groom.
Many women who had already married reported stories of their bridesmaids letting them down on their big day.
One woman said her maid-of-honour left her dress at a service station on the way to the wedding after deciding she didn't like it, while another revealed a bridesmaid had left 30 invitations unsent in her desk drawer.
Colette Harris, editor of You & Your Wedding magazine, said: "Planning weddings can be a stressful time for brides and while our contract is meant to be tongue-in-cheek, the survey demonstrates that issues with bridesmaids are of concern to many readers.
"Perhaps official contracts are the way forward for brides struggling to keep the peace."
Siobhàn Craven-Robins works with hundreds of brides a year in her role as wedding planner and has organised the weddings of celebrity clients including Joan Collins and Barbara Windsor.
"There has been a spoof contract like this on the internet in recent years but I'm not sure if the brides I know would actually use the real thing," she said.
The bridesmaid's contract is the latest American-style trend for brides. It follows the opening in Berkshire of the country's first bridal boot camp for women determined to shape up to fit into their dresses.
Trudy Dixon, the director of Bridal Boot Camp, said while many of the bridesmaids that work out at the boot camp had complained about the colour or style of the dresses chosen for them, few brides she knew would resort to such draconian measures to keep their ladies in line.
"I've been a bridesmaid several times and if I was presented with a contract, I would suggest they found another friend to do the job" she said.
So you think abusing women is okay? You think cheating is okay and cheating is abuse.
I realize you obviously don’t believe in God. Or at least you don’t think taking vows before God is worth anything.
It’s amazing you don’t think vows mean anything.
You think beating women is okay. You think abuse is okay which cheating is so you think beating is okay too.
Decent men work to stay in their marriage. Maybe one of the reasons the wife turned to food is the constant abuse?
Only someone who would rape a child would cheat on their spouse. Every single one is a piece of trash.
My goodness you certainly project a lot of hate.
Not too good at math either.
So some dude screwed you over because of too much pizza. Your problem not mine.
If you don’t have the funds to get some mental health help there are probably programs available.
(How about this, Miss Bride-To-Be? How about YOU sign a contract agreeing not to put on weight after we’re married?)
Exactly!!! I think that’s the biggest gribe husbands have.
If you were my wife I wouldn’t keep you a secret.
I would run like hell.
You are seriously disturbed.
Vows mean nothing to you and I’m the one who needs mental health? You think taking vows before God mean nothing and I need mental health?
You justify cheating if a woman gains weight? You justify abuse which CHEATING IS and I need help>
No decent human being ever cheated on their spouse.
And for the record it’s never happened to me but I’ve seen what it does to people.
Woman married to a man gives him beautiful children supports him through the good and the bad and a whore comes along and destroys the marriage.
So that’s okay to you?
PLEASE TELL ME YOUR NOT MARRIED AND ESPECIALLY DON’T HAVE CHILDREN!
God your poor children if you have any since the minute some whore comes along you’ll leave your wife for her.
You are an abusive woman hating piece of trash who thinks cheating is okay. You think abuse is okay.
You think vows are nothing. You think it means nothing to stand before God and take vows. VOWS MEAN NOTHING TO YOU!
Please leave your wife. Perhaps she’ll find a real man to be a father to the kids. If you’ve even cheated once you don’t love any of them anyway.
Dang woman. Get control of yourself.
According to Eaker it’s an excuse to sleep with a whore and beat the wife.
I have been married for almost 23 years and have two wonderful children.
I also am not a psycho with anger management issues.
Like you.
Get help. Freepmail me if you need a few bucks with your shrink’s address and I will send them a check.
Yes you are an abusive piece of crap who thinks cheating is okay.
A good man works with his wife on her issues.
An abusive piece of trash cheats.
Of course what do I expect from an obvious atheist who thinks vows taken before God mean nothing.
God I hope your poor abused wife finds a real man to be a father to the kids since you hate them all so much.
23 years let’s see a beating every week 23 x 52 = 2196 beatings. That’s what kind of subhuman you are.
You think the vows you took 23 years ago mean nothing.
You stood before God and took vows you think mean nothing.
You are the one justifying cheating. Only pieces of trash justify cheating.
Good men if their wife gains weight offers to help her.
Garbage pieces of trash who deserve to die cheat on their wives.
Remember most abused
People like Appy and Eaker wife gains some weight they give her a beating and then go find a whore.
Good men help their wives deal with their issues. Join a gym together or something.
People like Appy and Eaker think vows taken before God mean NOTHING.
I never knew they were atheists before. They must be since nobody who believes in God would okay cheating.
Question for the pieces of crap women beaters who think cheating is okay.
Where did you get the priest/minister or officiant to say in the vows “Until some whore comes along” instead of “Until death do us part?”
For the record I once weighed over 100 pounds more than I do now.
Because my husband is a man not a piece of trash he worked with me and I lost 114 pounds in the last year ish.
My husband because he actually believes in God unlike Appy and Eaker believes he took a vow before God to be faithful and unlike cheaters HE LOVES OUR KIDS!
Do squirrels chase you around?
I heard that they like nuts.
I am laughing at you right now as there are so few really demented psychos around to tease.
Seriously send me your shrink’s address because it looks like you are going to be seeing them for the long haul
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Question is who is Appy?
Dang, all these years I thought you two were such nice guys. Now I learn you’ve been beating your wives and cheating all this time..... (sorry, I couldn’t resist;^)
You think cheating is okay and I’m the one who needs help?
Spend time in an AIDS clinic with women who caught it from cheating pieces of trash like you and get back to me.
Watch a young child die from AIDS from his mother contracted from her cheating husband and get back to me.
Never realized you were an atheist before.
They both don’t consider vows to mean anything so they are NOT GOOD PEOPLE.
They both think spitting at God is okey dokey.
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