Posted on 01/09/2008 11:21:34 AM PST by bs9021
I think that ADHD is a serious....
Hey look! A shiny object.
What were we talking about?
MAN! It’s been freaking cold lately, so much for global warming.
Anyway, nothing on TV tonight.
JP
Look,
I read every “ADHD IS BS” post the same way I’d read “Next think yer gonna tell us is epilepsy isn’t demonic possession!”
Medical knowledge did not cease to grow the day they were born.
Put me in the real but over diagnosed group.
Used to be called spoiled brats. Course, the way I grew up, children should be seen and not heard.
“YES MA’AM”
“NO MA’AM”
“YES SIR”
“NO SIR”
Our parents were not our friends. I still shudder at the thought of my granmothers switch. She could stripe a pair of legs in a jiffy.
How about a character disorder?
Slick Willie definitely has a character disorder where he takes no responsibility whatsoever for anything, engages in behavior regardless of the damage he causes others, etc.
“OK, Mr. Medical expert tell us all about it.”
Well... If you really believe that ADHD exists, then the cure is to place the afflicted child in front of an XBox360 or PlayStation3 and I guarantee all of the symptoms will disappear!
Exactly. My daughter is not a bad girl and very rarely misbehaves, she merely does not process like other kids and gets distracted then panics when constantly confronted. She was becoming a very sad girl and began feeling she was less than perfect and was very self-critical at age 8 and it broke my heart. So you non-believers can kiss my butt. I’d do it again every chance I’d get, she is a happy child again.
One behavior characteristic she does have is the want to be in everybody’s business.
We all need our crutches, I guess; my sister had an undiagnosed brain tumor for probably ten years; as it slowly grew, it manifested as migraine-like headaches and many trips to her personal physician.
In desperation and to rid himself of her, he finally sent her to have a brain scan that disclosed the tumor.
It was mostly removed almost 30 years ago and she has been on a cocktail of medicines for all this time.
Recently she had fainting spells, sudden drops in body temperature and now remains in a nursing home awaiting space in a convalescent facility even though she will never live independently again.
Her daughter nows handles all her affairs and finds her lucid at times and confused at others.
I grew up thinking she was mean and a bit nuts.
we were healthier from more exercise, our teachers did this deliberately to give the “antsy” students who couldn’t sit that long a chance to run off some energy....
NOW the kiddies are expected to attend school longer.....sit for longer periods of time with less chance to get up and move......and they blame the child and put him on meds.
I often wonder how these children would do if they were homeschooled.
Don’t you know that all you need to do is beat the living daylights out of all these kids and suddenly the ADHD will go away?? /s
I agree with you; overdiagnosed but not BS at all.
I will say part of the problem is that the public school system is a POS, but it is what we have today.
How tragic for her. God have mercy on her.
The condition, as you call it, is a subjective one; did you ever ask your son the whole time you were pulling out your hair trying to figure out why he wasn’t just like all his behaved friends what he thought about the treatment?
Has he ever asked you why you didn’t accept him the way he was?
Hang in there.
Sounds like my middle son.
He could always take a field trip while sitting in the classroom staring out the window. The ultimate space cadet.
His IQ is literally at the top of the charts. He was a National Merit Scholar in high school, eventually earning two engineering degrees. But the structure of school was always hard. We found that the more challenging classes were actually easier for him, because they kept his attention.
In grade school, he could never get dressed on time, never tied his shoes (and often just carried them!), never finished his homework (but could ace tests). If you asked him his name, he’d have to stand looking at you and think about it. He just lived in another world.
In junior high, his teachers called me in one day. He was so spacey, they thought he was on drugs. Trust me, he wasn’t, and he wasn’t trying to be “different.” He just was.
If your boy needs meds, try it. It will be easier on the teacher and much easier on you. But it will likely also drain some of his creativity.
The best advice I ever got from one of the many experts we consulted was to just enjoy my son the way he was. Love, and discipline, and lots of guidance, but acceptance, too.
Pulling for you.
My Dad was ROF ADHD plus sociopathic batchit crazy.
He’d laugh at something one minute and beat you half to death the next. He’d be so wrapped up in his own head, you could be bleeding to death and he wouldn’t notice. Sadly, GBB, the kid with no attention span got beat constantly for being disrespectful...most of the time he didn’t even know why he was being hit...he was that ‘out of it’ in the chaos.
Ya know sumthin, he doesn’t remember a day before he turned 11? His life actually started (or at least his memory did) when he was dx’d...however, my Dad just layed him out and hit him harder. He thought he was faking it.
So now GBB is also ROF ADHD and borderline sociopathic. Aint’ genetics grand? (I’m starting to cry)
Later.
I also blame it on the fact that so many parents both work and they want the child babysat for longer school days.
No one would expect a baby not to cry and not flail their arms...I'd call that ADHD...baby style. A thumb sucker finds a solution. A blanket hugger finds a solution. My daughter held two bunnies and we had to sneak the blanket away from my bro to wash it.
Raising any child is an experiment of a sort. They're all different. Love the heck out of them.
I guess I just didn’t beat my kid enough.
He may tell a different story.
;-)
I think such a “condition” may exist, but as others say - definitely way overdiagnosed (ADD and the new-fangled off-shoot ADHD).
And I don’t think it’s necessarily a hugely “bad” thing, as if it was a disease. Probably just a person who is toward the end of the bell curve.
My nephew was diagnosed with this ages ago, and he got alot of drugs and coddling (mostly the latter, my sister too often spending way too much time trying to force him to work and then doing it for him; also buying a laptop because he has “dysgraphia” and his hand hurts!).
But Rut had some concrete and abstract things behind him.
He was born with a skull that wouldn’t knit, so his head was not only misshapen but was very sensitive. Dr. Ben Carson luckily worked on him very early to force that skull closed.
He also was virtually raised by ninny nanny, who coddled him so badly she was still spoon-feeding him when he was 4. (She thinks she’s the cat’s meow for kids, BTW; she’s very annoying with her off-topic comments about herself.) Never mind basically letting him have what he wants without real consequences.
The boy was excruciating to deal with in school. We’re not talking “boys will be boys” (which I hate, BTW). We’re talking like a slug in school, never doing what is asked.
Luckily, for all these problems, his very nature is sweet and kind-hearted (and he can really suck up info IF it’s something he wants to do - but the teacher can’t ask for it!). While he drove even me nuts with his school-work behavior, he is extraordinarily generous, thoughtful, kind and decent and polite. From a young age up to now at 20!
So Rut may have been an example of true ADD - but he also may have been victim of both his skull problem and his nanny.
I can answer that! The speed, lights and patterns match more the speed of the brain firings that an ADDer deals with....
That’s an easy one. What would make you stressed out will calm them right down.
Same with my first one.
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