"Would you go to a family members Gay Wedding under a situation like this??"
Yes. There are more important things in life than politics. Family is one of them.
Fortunately, I don't have any gays in the family, so I never will face the dilemma myself.
Would attending please God?
Go
Of course you should go.
Put aside any petty difference over the "gaY" issue and be there for your cousin.
Family first.
No.
Say something important came up - Like your sock drawer needs rearranging that day. (kidding about this part)
Go to the wedding. There are plenty of heterosexual weddings I've attended and didn't approve of either.
But family is family, go and have a great time.
The problem, as I see it, is we've been desensitized in so many, many ways. Because of this, doing the right thing or even mentioning it will make us look like we're from another planet to some people. In all things I am a Christian first, so in that sense coming across as if I'm from another planet doesn't bother me because of what the Bible says in regards to those who belong to Christ. If you're not a Christian then this won't make as much sense to you.
If we were to attend, what would we tell our two boys? They certainly wouldn't go with us. From the sound of it you don't have children so you may not have to think along these lines, but we certainly have to. Our boys are too young to know anything about homosexuals or homosexuality. But when we do introduce the subject and tell them what we believe, when they find out we attended a same-sex wedding they'll immediately see a double standard.
We live what we say we believe. Sometimes that means taking a stand very few are willing to take themselves.
Because you asked, for the reasons stated above and other reasons not listed, we could not, in good conscience, attend a same-sex wedding, family or not.
I did not go to my sister's wedding to a non-Jew and she did not come to any of my kids' Jewish weddings, so, no, I would not go to my cousin's "gay" wedding. In fact none of my cousins would even invite me.
I would not attend. Loving someone doesn't mean loving or approving of everything that person says, does or believes. If I were in that situation, I might send some kind of gift (uplifting?) with a note wishing for his happiness. I would wish him true happiness, which would include the knowledge that no one has to be "gay". I'm not saying I would include that in the message, but it would be in my heart.
To me, the courage to stand up for one's convictions is what makes or breaks the convictions. Attending such a sham wedding is standing up in support of normalizing homosexuality.
I would probably have "lots of meetings and a dentist appointment scheduled for that day". I wouldn't have much of a problem with being there until they got to that "you may kiss the bride(or whatever they call it)" part of the ceremony.
In a heartbeat. 30 years from now you will be glad you did. My very best friend from childhood is gay. One of the nicest guys you will ever meet. Smart too. He came out of the closet when we were both in grad school (was an interesting letter to receive though when he did - we were in different schools at the time and he was very worried about telling me). He completed his PhD in math and went on to a very successful career working with the DOD at the TS level. They certainly did not have a problem with it.
We are friends to this day. He has a happy life (more than a lot of folks in this world) and I am glad he does.
You and your wife should show up in the most flamboyant drag or S&M outfit you could possibly come up with. Interesting to see who would accuse you of disrespecting the tradition of the ceremony.
A Freeper would politely refuse the invitation.
Offer no excuses.
Pray for his soul.
I would go - no question in my mind.
NO, a wedding is not necessary. Live with the person and quit trying to make it okay. It is not.
Going to a Gay wedding is to validate it. I could not.
Once you go you have accepted gay marriage.
I wouldn't do that no matter how much a person must adore Rudy.
Isn't that what this is really about?
Yes.
For the record, I am against Gay Marriages, but this "wedding" will go on with or without you being there. So it makes no sense to snub your beloved cousins invitation. If you dont go, you'll hate yourself and needlessly put a rift in your relationship with him.