Posted on 02/08/2007 6:02:58 PM PST by blam
Women shun 'the man who has it all'
By Roger Highfield, Science Editor
Last Updated: 1:23am GMT 09/02/2007
Some men are just too good to be true, according to a study published today by psychologists.
Men who are good-looking, single, and earn a fortune are not as attractive as good-looking men who have an average kind of job, according to the research.
Simon Chu of the University of Central Lancashire and colleagues studied how women weigh up male physical attractiveness and socio-economic status when considering a long-term relationship.
They collected data from 186 female university students in the UK, with an average age of 23, asking them to look at personal ads of various men and rank them in terms of attractiveness as a long-term partner. Each advertisement showed a "mug shot" and provided basic information about his age, occupation and what he is seeking in a partner.
Images of the men ranged from those who were previously measured to be highly attractive, attractive and unattractive. Eighteen different occupations were also randomly assigned, from architect and company director to waiter, postman and gardener.
Surprisingly, researchers found that highly attractive men of medium status scored better than highly attractive men of high status.
The team, whose work is published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, speculates that women perceive highly attractive men of increasing status to be less faithful and "too good to be true".
Freud said it first.
Regards, Ivan
First, one must know how attractive the women were. A highly attractive women is not gonna settle for the lesser achieving man as often as plain Janes and bow-wows.
Oooh, someone sounds a little bitter. Here's the real answer. Good women want good men, no matter the $$ involved.
Well-off men can have any beautiful woman they can afford.
You hit that one on the head. My gorgeous sister was divorced when she was 41. A friend of hers who who was in her fifties at the time and is married to a wealthy self-made man told her, "I'd introduce you to some of our [male] friends but they all want someone younger".
You've probably already had plenty of advice, but take it from an old goat; go join a church my lad. You'll have more Mamas introducing you to daughters than you could ever imagine.
LOL
My favorite story is the time a friend of mine overheard a phone conversation at the airport that went like this:
HER: Look, I cannot live like this! You have GOT to get your own plane! They have made me wait in the boarding lounge for over an hour and besides that I'm going to be in a FULL First Class! I mean it! This sucks!
HIM: Who knows....
I have no idea what makes a good relationship. I am the world's worst judge of character, and I've believed way, way too many women. I won't do it again.
My man, these are the wisest, most honest words I've EVER seen on FR.
So, say I settled for my wife. Perhaps i did but it doesn't change the fact that my promise to her was until "death do us part".
Congratulations. You sound like a real man to me. Reminds me of the song in 'Fiddler on the Roof' ('Do I love you?') A wealth of wisdom in that.
You sound like a smart lady. Unfortunately, as an old goat, I must say that I have seen more than a few men AND women, intentionally and successfully hide an ugly and destructive aspect of themselves until after the wedding.
Wisdom from the pain, bro. Wisdom from the pain.
Wherever possible, marry your second wife first.
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I have four daughters. Thanks for the tip.
I have four daughters. Thanks for the tip.
Actually, I think that goes both ways, men sometimes shun women who have it all, too.
So that's why they shun me!
LOL! The responses on this thread are hilarious. You can definitely tell the guys who a) are divorced, and/or b) can't get a date to save their lives.
Ouch! LOL!
Actually, I do have a rule to address that: If one of you wants to rush the wedding... tough cookies. I have yet to meet someone who can hold it together for 6 full months without "warning signs".
But *way* too often the other party ignores these warning signs because their heart was already too invested. If you find yourself making excuses for your future mate or covering up their behavior, you're with the wrong person and (on some level) you do know that.
Again, you have to be honest with yourself.
You are, of course, correct. I have observed, however, that sometimes the bad behavior occurs in private and when the doubting partner tries to get some confirmation of their doubts everyone pooh-poohs them with the "He/she's such a terrific person!"
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