[CORedneck]

My advice is never get married without a prenup and make sure she has an attorney to look it over and sign it. One thing I forgot in mine if I had to do the prenup over again, include a clause that the party who decides to challenge the prenup must do it on their dime.

When I got married, I made a simple prenup. Whoever owns the property, keeps it (title). I am sole owner of the house, cars and if we got divorced, she won't get the items. On my investments, her name is not on it. She has her own brokerage account and I am working on her investing in it and wanting to build the money up so make it less likely that she has a leg to stand on to try to break the prenup.

[HairOfTheDog]

I am sole owner of the house, cars and if we got divorced, she won't get the items. On my investments, her name is not on it. She has her own brokerage account and I am working on her investing in it and wanting to build the money up so make it less likely that she has a leg to stand on to try to break the prenup.

That's a sad commentary. I hope you spend as much time making it work as you spend making sure it's painless if it fails.

[JenB]

You remind me of couples I know who have it all figured out... they divide the bills between them, and he pays "his" bills and she pays "her" bills and the rest of the money is theirs as they want. I can imagine how much potential for fighting and stress that sort of thing adds. If my husband had suggested a prenup before we got married I'd have looked at him like he had two heads. But our religious beliefs and personal backgrouns mean that we don't see divorce as an option, ever.

Do you remind your wife regularly that it's your house and you just let her live there? Don't you work together in your marriage to build your life together, including house and cars and stuff? It seems sort of sad if you don't.

[Melas]

I should be outraged that passes for marriage these days, but unfortunately I just find it sad. Being in a good marriage facing hard times (my wife is facing cancer), I realize just how shallow a relationship built on a prenup really is. We've gone this far with a simple oral agreement we made 16 years ago to share everything and not leave each other.