At the risk of repeating myself. Maine has already passed a law concerning smoking Foster parents and the foster kids: Maine: Do not smoke if your a foster parent! The DHS says so! It's ok if you sprawl on the couch at night drunk though! DHS creates smoking rules for foster homes, vehicles 2-26-04 - article here
Check out this ridiculous picture.................kids standing in the back seat of an open convertible! But oh my! The idiot driver isn't SMOKING! heh!
I do understand what you mean, metmom. I have the same problem with cats. Few seem to understand that it isn't "just in my head" -- or that just tossing "Muffy" & "Fluffy" outside when I visit isn't enough.
Even friends of mine didn't get it until they had to take me to the emergency room after they got a cat (who hid the whole time I was there) and didn't mention it. The invisible cat hair on the sofa was enough to trigger both crazed itching and a severe asthma attack.
Now, when husband I are asked to dinner at their home by new acquaintances, I am embarassed because I have to say, "Pardon me, do you have a cat?", before I can answer whether or not we can come!