Posted on 11/18/2006 2:38:03 AM PST by MadIvan
What do you do if the majority of the men in your country seem so self-absorbed, feckless or dependent on the bottle that there aren't enough to go round?
Russian women believe that they have found the answer, with growing numbers flocking to "bitch schools" that purport to provide a competitive edge in a dwindling market of suitable bachelors, or provide those already in relationships with the skills to bring their men to heel.
Twice a week, women stream into the Dubrovka theatre in Moscow. Four years ago, 129 people were killed there during a botched attempt to free an audience taken hostage by Chechen extremists. Today its backstage rooms are home to a night school run by Vladimir Rakovsky, a motivational speaker, and his wife, Yevgenia, who teach "bitchology".
In Russia, where feminism is treated with suspicion and its practitioners often regarded as lesbians, being a "bitch" is not what many in the West would assume.
A successful "bitch", Mr Rakovsky explains, is neither strident nor sassy, but demure, manipulative and aware of her own sexuality in order to get her own way.
"Bitchology is the theory, practice and technique of being successful in a man's world," he said. "A smart woman gets what she wants by pretending to be weak."
"A bitch should be strong and self-confident but should remember to use feminine wiles, such as her attractiveness and, whenever useful, she should try to come across as a helpless creature."
Lessons begin with the philosophy of "bitchology". The "bitch" should win favours by acting either as a helpless baby or, in rare situations, like an adult woman.
Then its off to the "school of seduction" in which the women learn to attract the most discerning of men by flaunting their sexuality. This week, students learned how to a work a room full of men just by dropping something, and picking it up, to "accentuate the most beautiful part of your body". "If it's your breasts, flaunt them, if it's your backside use it," Mrs Rakovsky, 21, told them.
Next week, she will focus on how to surreptitiously rub one's breasts against an unsuspecting subject. In the final lesson, the women learn the art of the striptease.
The Rakovskys' students swear by the technique which, according to one, gives every Russian woman what she wants: "Great sex, money and a man who looks after you."
Natalya, 33, said: "If I play the role of a baby, my man begins to take care of me. He behaves like he has to protect me."
While Russia's attitude to gender equality may seem baffling to many westerners, sociologists say it has to be understood in the context of its history.
In Soviet times, when sexism officially did not exist, women ploughed fields and work in factories. Today, many young women would prefer to shop or dine out. If their men can fund such a lifestyle, equality appears to be a sacrifice worth making.
These men are being tested, and are failing badly. And the time to start saying no is on the first date, not years into a relationship where she has gotten her way from Day One. Ask she asks for something ridiculous and you say no and she throws a fit and threatens to leave...help her pack. ;)
For both men and women in the USA, way too many relationships endure based on fear of loss. If you aren't ready to draw the line and let him or her walk away immediately when your integrity is violated, then you don't have enough self-esteem to be in a long-term relationship in the first place.
LOL! Unfortunately, that one looks about twelve years old. ;)
Around here we just call these women "Southern Belles". /grin
Steel magnolia is another term....
Are you really naïve enough to think we don't know?
Uhh...'cause they're in Russia?
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I guess that explains it. :)
Is this the song played in your house? :)
Ladies and Gentlemen,
The Man Song!
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
I don't take no crap from anybody
[else but you]
I wear the pants around here
[when I finish with your laundry]
Coz I'm a guy you don't wanna fight
[When I say "Jump", you say "Yeah right!"]
I'm the man of this house
[until you get home]
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
What I say goes around here
[right out the window]
and I don't wanna hear a lot of whining
[so I'll shut up]
The sooner you learn who's Boss around here
[The sooner you can give me my orders, dear]
Coz I'm Head-Honcho around here
[but it's all in my head]
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
And I can have sex anytime
[that you want it]
Coz I'm a man who has needs
[but there not that important]
And don't expect any flowers from me
[Coz if I'm not mistaken you prefer jewelry]
I'm the King of my castle
[when you're not around]
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
And I'll drink and watch sports whenever I wanna
[get in trouble]
And I'll come home when I'm good and ready
[to sleep on the couch]
Coz a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do
[And I'm gonna do what you tell me to]
Because I'm Top dog around here
[but I've been neutered]
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
(You the man!)
Rodney Carrington
Sorry. Attack of the smartalec this morning.
This article conjured up visions of southern belles, and how much I dislike the fake, manipulative, helpless, weak, never-say-what-you-mean, butter-wouldn't-melt-in-my-mouth exaggerated femininity of that type of woman.
Maybe because I was never able to pull it off, or maybe I just don't like fake & manipulative.
The Ukraine girls really knock me out, they leave the West behind, and Moscow girls make me sing and shout...
Russian women are drop dead gorgeous.
You would be wise to avoid looking for a wife in Moscow, St Petersburg or Kiev. These women have been Westernized, and are extremely worldly. Most of the Western men who end up divorced from RW married women from these cities, and in many cases the women were prostitutes.
I can tell when a woman from anywhere has been "westernized"-I don't like them!
A lot of Russian girls I've known have been very traditional, enjoy being women, and enjoy a real man.
By the way, did you recognize the first part is from the Beatles song, Back in the USSR? You don't know how lucky you are...
Check # 35 - these skills are universal. And add "kegebuchest'" to them as an allowance for the local conditions. Ages ago there I had an honor of having my [immediately former] fiancee reporting me to the kegebuns. External attractiveness, on which most of this thread has been based, runs only skin deep, after all.
Kegebuns? Never heard of them. What are they?
My exposure to Russian women is that they need to be trained neither on how to be feminine or sexy. Or, for that matter, manipulative.
The problem is that the Soviet system squelched assertiveness which is what most women want from their men. The men who were assertive in the old Soviet state got a ticket to the Gulags...unless they joined the Party and heeded their masters. The only men left, according to the women, are bitter men who would rather drown their anger than take action to improve themselves. That's why the country is veering back towards socialism.
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Ah. Got it. Thanks,
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