Posted on 07/26/2006 7:17:10 AM PDT by carlo3b
Sorry, but my children bore me to death!
by HELEN KIRWAN-TAYLOLR, Daily Mail 08:00am 26th July 2006It's the start of the summer holidays, when millions of mothers despair at how to entertain their children for the next six weeks. What none of them dare say is that they would rather their children were still at school or, frankly, anywhere else. Helen Kirwan-Taylor, a 42-year-old writer, lives in Notting Hill, West London, with her businessman husband Charles and their sons Constantin, 12, and Ivan, ten. Here, she argues provocatively that modern women must not be enslaved by their children.
The lies started when my eldest son was less than ten months old.
Invitations to attend a child's birthday party or, worse, a singalong session were met with the same refrain: 'I would love to but I just can't spare the time.'
The nanny was dispatched in my place, and almost always returned complaining that my son had been singled out for pitiful stares by the other mothers.
(snip) Kids are supposed to be fulfilling, life-changing, life-enhancing fun: why was my attitude towards them so different?While all my girlfriends were dropping important careers and occupying their afternoons with cake baking, I was begging the nanny to stay on, at least until she had read my two a bedtime story. What kind of mother hates reading bedtime stories? A bad mother, that's who, and a mother who is bored rigid by her children.
(snip) Am I a lazy, superficial person because I don't enjoy packing up their sports kit, or making their lunch, or sitting through coffee mornings with other mothers discussing how Mr Science (I can't remember most of the teachers' names) said such and such to Little Johnny and should we all complain to the headmaster.
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I can't even finish reading this wretched woman's narcissistic screed.
I cried on the days I accompanied my sons to their last track meets; my daughters to their last dance performance and concert. I still remember the last Cub Scout meetings
I thoroughly enjoy going to such events with my granchildren when invited.
Although the house is fancier now, it is not as exciting as when it was full of kids. NOW the house is boring! The knick knacks remain in the same places week after week -- moved only when I dust. There are no helping hands constantly redecorating for me and no unfortunate accidents that CAUSE a redorating scheme to ensue. (I still remember occasional bouncing balls inside the house and the resultant smashed decor.)
Why set the table when one can eat straight from the pot?
I hate to say it, but
1 This "Mother" sounds like a total @!%#^#$ B$tch not worthy of the title mother and
2 she will wind up reaping her just rewards when her kids wind up being spoiled brats because she would not refuse them anything just so she could get rid of them.
I just hate people who are like that
You have a talker too, huh? *L*
You're are right .. there are times mom's need some free time to clear our heads and recharge
But I would never say my kids bore me and I would never say they were a mistake .. which is basically what this author is saying
How do you suppose she got the "it's all about me" attitude? Could it be from parents who made her the center of their world?
Good for you! You sound a lot like us. One warning, though - many couples who base their lives around raising the kids - to the exclusion of each other - are setting themselves up for a fall later in life. If both of you do not take the time to nurture your romantic life (ie with a "date night"), you will find a moment once the kids have moved out and wonder who this person is, and what connection do you have besides the kids.
I read a great book about this subject last year (one of those Christian marriage manuals). I'll look it up and post the link.
Totally changed my way of thinking toward my wife. I now "romance' her as often as I can. I don't want to wake up once the kids have gone and find out we've grown so far apart that we don't know each other anymore.
In other words, this world is all about me!
What an empty woman she must be.
This woman is teaching her children not only to be selfish but also to dismiss anyone who interesting or exciting. I predict that when she is old, her children will consider her to be a frightful bore and probably won't want to spend any time with her. And she will deserve their neglect.
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I can't understand this attitude. I'd much rather be home with my kids.
"Maturity, for them will be Hell.."
Yes. They will sit at home all alone and wonder why their children never come to see them. "And after all I've done for them. Oh, woe is me."
I thought this was going to be about Hillary Clinton!
Same MO.
My daughter has been a constant source of joy to me for 26 years! Can't wait for grandchildren!! I cannot in my wildest dreams imagine a homosapien (can't really call this person a "woman") like this one.
That's what I wondered, reading this. I am not particularly interested in children's activities or interests, and that's one reason I chose not to have children. The question is, why did she feel it necessary to have them when they're only an intrusion?
I was granted my mini-Mommy holiday because my husband has taken our daughter to see the pony swim made famous by Ms. Henry's books!!!!!! The 3 of us will go on Friday to see the return swim. I have to work this afternoon and since there is no guarantee of what time they will cross the channel, I didn't want to be a spoil sport by being a clock watcher.
I've heard the same from other parents, too, including other homeschoolers, who say couples need to spend time alone. I have to admit, I can't remember the last time we actually had a "date" without the kids. I think it was five or six years ago. :-0
The main reason is that we don't want to leave our kids with babysitters, and we live too far away from relatives who can watch them.
Well said. That this woman finds her children boring says that she is extremely self-involved with no intellectual curiosity or love of learning. Children can occasionally be trying, aggravating and tedious, but there are so many rewards for an engaged, receptive parent. The opportunities for personal growth while parenting are limitless.
Sorry girls but I don't trust women who hyphenate their last names.
I bet they are.
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