[Al Simmons]

Its in the stats. For every 1 woman divorced by her husband, 2 men (often clueless as to why) are dumped by their wives, who correctly gauge that the current system is set up to screw men out of their children and out of their money.

As far as this article goes, I doubt that she is 'bereft of money' after 40 years of marriage. She not only gets half of the property, but a hefty alimony if she did not work for 40 years.

If her skunk ex left her for a younger woman, well, that implies that he must have some means......

[Capriole]

Its in the stats. For every 1 woman divorced by her husband, 2 men (often clueless as to why) are dumped by their wives

Hi. Could we have some documentation for that statement? You cite "stats": which particular set of statistics, harvested when and with what methodology, are you using to make this statement?

Personally, I am at a loss to know what study would reveal that twice as many men are dumped by their wives as wives by their husbands, that they didn't have a clue why, or that the wife did it merely because she wanted to exploit a blameless, flawless husband with the help of the legal system.

[Fawn]

Its in the stats. For every 1 woman divorced by her husband, 2 men (often clueless as to why) are dumped by their wives, who correctly gauge that the current system is set up to screw men out of their children and out of their money.

It's in the stats that men are often clueless as to why the wife filed? PUHLEEZ. They file because they had enough of him having it both ways. Someone already pointed out that women file 2/3 of the time and that the non-faulty party are the ones to file.

[M. Dodge Thomas]

"... are dumped by their wives, who correctly gauge that the current system is set up to screw men out of their children and out of their money."

There have been several studies of this question - including some done by conservative "rpo-family" researchers and groups - which demonstrate that on the average divorce is considerably more economically damaging to women then men.

[Chickensoup]

As far as this article goes, I doubt that she is 'bereft of money' after 40 years of marriage. She not only gets half of the property, but a hefty alimony if she did not work for 40 years.

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Not if he has a really good lawyer.

[Gabz]

Its in the stats. For every 1 woman divorced by her husband, 2 men (often clueless as to why) are dumped by their wives, who correctly gauge that the current system is set up to screw men out of their children and out of their money.

While I agree the current system does generally favor a woman, particularly if children are involved........I believe the the 1 - 2 ratio of the stats is garnered from who iniates the paperwork. Not necessarily just women out to screw their husbands.

I iniated the papers in my divorce, not because I wanted to screw him over....but to get rid of him. I paid for it, walked away with nothing but what I walked in with, and he expected me to pay for his lawyer, and tried to get spousal support because I had a better paying job and he couldn't afford "his" house without my income. Even his own lawyer laughed at him about that.

Even ignoring my own situation, which is not exactly uncommon, I really don't believe things are quite as bad as people who are not familiar with any of this would be led to believe by some of the commentary presented on this forum when it comes to men, women, and divorce.

There are always at least 3 sides to every divorce - his hers, and the truth.

[ArmstedFragg]

She not only gets half of the property, but a hefty alimony if she did not work for 40 years.

Not to mention half his pension.....

[hinckley buzzard]

As far as this article goes, I doubt that she is 'bereft of money' after 40 years of marriage. She not only gets half of the property, but a hefty alimony if she did not work for 40 years.

Thank you for injecting some common sense reality into this peculiar thread. The "article" is just a publicity release to hype a book, not genuine news.

[Scotswife]

"As far as this article goes, I doubt that she is 'bereft of money' after 40 years of marriage. She not only gets half of the property, but a hefty alimony if she did not work for 40 years."

She didn't work?
Exactly what do you call raising 5 children?
According to you I don't "work" either - yet I find this business of raising kids to be the most difficult "job" I've ever had.
There are times when I crave the peacefulness of dealing with adults at a nice quiet office.-
I suppose I could hire someone to do the job I do - pay them - so they can be considered officially "working" (when I previously wasn't) so I can go out and "work."

Oh yeah...if I did this the Freepers would accuse me of abandoning my kids.

So guys...what is a woman to do? Please tell us the secret - y'all are so good at telling us what we're doing wrong but you don't give us alternatives.