It's a common dynamic, dahlink.
ah, so she wants the rest of the world to base their behavior on her personal bitterness.
Good move!
It's a common dynamic, dahlink.
This confirms my observation - feminism is the repository for bitteress, hatred of men, and disgust with traditional marriage. The more bitterness and hatred, the more strident the feminist.
What a fine way to get back at the former husband, too - sliming the guy (who appears to have had it coming) on national television and with thousands of books. Revenge is a dish best served before a mass audience!
Respecting the value of being a homemaker is one thing; expecting to enjoy guaranteed lifetime privileges as a pet is another thing entirely.
Learning useful lifetime skills is a highly recommended idea regardless of one's attitude concerning women's role in home-making.
Her first book was narrow and stupid, as will be the sequel.
No doubt a one-sided presentation of the facts.
Interestingly, somewhere around 2/3 of divorces are initiated by the wife. The popular stereotype of the husband dumping the wife for the hot new trophy bride is not usually the reality.
Gee, think her new book will get better coverage than her first book.
Her ex-husband is a cretin and a louse. Good riddance to him.
I can see that it's real dangerous to break up with a writer or a lyricist ;~D
It didn't take very long for this to turn into a women bashing thread, did it?
If her husband did in fact leave her after 40 years of marriage for a younger women, I hope the guy croaks from the guilt and his new 'wife' screws him out of every last cent. It would be karmic justice, IMO.
She can enjoy a new career as a Walmart greeter.
Seriously, though, this sucks. FReepers actually expect a 67-year-old homemaker to go out and flip burgers after the hubster dumps her for a newer model? What about the 5 kids? Don't any of them work? Why can't they support their loving Mom?
Good grief. Judging from the reactions here, it seems women just can't win no matter what they do. No matter what happens, it's always the woman's fault.
This woman is 67 years old, her husband dumped her for a younger woman, and she has no recent jobs skills! That could happen to any stay-at-home wife. How many Freepers would want that to happen to themselves, to their daughters, sisters, mothers? Is it okay that her husband did that to her? What if your son-in-law did that to your daughter? Would it be okay? Did this woman deserve it somehow? Not one word of condemnation for the husband, but *she's* evil! If she'd had a career throughout her marriage, she'd be financially okay now, but then Freepers would condemn her as a Feminazi. Since she *didn't* have a career, that means she must have wanted to be kept as a "pet" her whole life!
So what the h### are women supposed to do? Obviously stay-at-home wives have a lot of nerve if they expect to be supported all their lives, according to Freepers. But on the other hand, if they have careers, they are evil Feminazis who are neglecting their children!
Come on! Women are people, too, and they get a lot of mixed messages. Even the most vicious woman-hater on FR (and unfortunately, there are a lot of them,) has female relatives. How do you want them to be treated? We're all trying to do the best we can in this life. Have some compassion, for crying out loud.
There are many FReeper guys who lament that there aren't a legion of women out there begging to be housewives.
You can thank men like this woman's husband for that, instead of solely blaming feminism.
This is the same story that many generations of women have heard, which caused the sad lack of trust present in today's marriages.
And I'm no feminist.
So typical. Nothing new.
The only hole in this whole scenario, which ordinarily is a plausible one, is that Hekker was a published writer. That IS a marketable skill, as evidenced from her current book contract. She's better off than the example she is making of her own situation.
In other words, "you made your bed, now lay in it".