Absolutely not, so I can't admit it. My ex is a lying, cheating, lazy drunk and I despise everyone like him, male or female. My significant other and the rest of my friends are smart, honest and delightful, male and female.
I don't think you're bad, just the victim of your experiences. You can recover, no big deal.
Too many "once-married" women and men have similar experiences and I know some of them. Do these people do a 180 after they walk down the aisle or does the other party to the marriage choose to ignore the tell-tale signs?
At times I've wondered if some marriages were a mistake in the first place. I recall my Mother's words to me: "There are a million reasons why people marry" (the one they marry, she obviously meant.)
Your "significant other" just happens to be strumming your emotional strings presently, the way any man should. But that cannot continue 24/7, and when that changes, so will your "position." That is the problem for the future.
We men cannot subordinate marriage and family to female emotions. It cannot be done, lest we dispense with marriage and family completely. And we cannot permit that. The future cannot be left to female emotions. There will be no future otherwise. As a girl, you know this in your heart.
We men have let girls down, AS MEN. I know this. That is my repetitive refrain. My diatribe is against my own gender, not yours. You girls are pretty and sweet and we must luv you all. But we have come to our senses and clean up this mess.
I'm happily married now for 29 years, but a man may think, no?
DA740