Posted on 09/22/2005 5:48:16 PM PDT by wagglebee
Whenever I am tempted I just think of my love for my wife and children. Nothing in this world is worth losing that. Alcohol is a BIG factor in adultery. People need to really watch themselves inb social-work settings where booze is present.
I agree.
I personally know of four conservative Christian men who betrayed their families and committed adultery.
Not a single one repented and came back...
And this was in a VERY conservative church!
I am baffled by it all...
Ed
"What's more, I believe anyone who signs one of those detestable pre-nuptial contracts has no understanding what a true marriage is and really shouldn't bother with it!"
I have to disagree with that. My third sister and her husband signed one when they married and they are just celebrating their 30th anniversary. Carol was a wonderful person but was lazy and untidy, among other things; they signed a contract that if she would keep the house and rear the children to acceptable standards, she would never have to go out and get a job. For five years it was a continual fight, and then it clicked and they have been very happy together and raised two good kids and have a grand child now. Pre Nups can work if you know what you are doing.
"I have definite convictions about adultery; the spouse that commits adultery should be executed. Period"
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oh, so you're the founder of the Taliban? (sarc)
I knew that would be taken wrong. Those I work with and go to church and do community projects with do not add up to a huge number but I think we take our vows to heart. Got to go cook breakfast and serve it for our community fair attendees now.
Betrayal is a cruel thing. When someone has declared their love for you then stomped it into the ground (in front of your children) I don't think I'd be feeling warm and fuzzy. I don't advocate death but severe punishments financially. I would say socially but this society isn't up to that task.
"all is fair and love is war"
You're not God and careful what YOU wish for, you just might get it.
Well I guess for some people who ought not be together in the first place, it can be war.
If someone is looking for a life companion to help and be helped by, to go through life as a team, to care about that other person as much or even more than you care about yourself, to be faithful and loyal even when you see the warts (and guess what, they see yours), even when times are tough, to reach out your hand and help your spouse over the rough spots, to cheer him or her when she's down, to share the good times, to know when to talk, when to listen, and when to leave him/her alone...And to do it all because God says that's the way it should be - then it's very likely the marriage will be a good one.
If someone marries knowing that even when the outside ages, the inside is still eternal - and learns to see through the outside into the inside - that will be a good marriage.
If someone is looking for a sex object who will never get old, a meal ticket who'll always make lots of money, someone who's hair will never turn grey or fall out, don't get married.
Great post.
It is never mercy to break one's holy vow.
It is simply justification for selfishness.
Why? Because you have a vow and a responsibility that says to hang in there through the tougher times.
It is pretty simple.
Well said
The upper classes throughout history have always had adulterous affairs. They had "leisure" time and resources not available to the peasants. With the rise of living standards, this is no suprise.
I have no problem with huge cash awards to the aggrieved party, if that's what she seeks.
But death at the hands of the state is too much, in my view. It IS lamentably true that society no longer attaches the shame it once did. A good old-fashioned shunning goes a long way.
I know of one who has gotten away with it and sits in church and has been married for 19 years. The funny thing is he is in another state and I found out through a relative. It is a small world. He wife has no idea. I believe he thinks the world of himself and is very simple minded and feels well proud that he has gotten away with this for now. Once a man cheats they do not stop.
While none of this makes the flagrant adultery right, it does put it in perspective. Remember in these cases, there WAS NO BETRAYAL OF TRUST. From what we can observe, these situations describe the Klintoons perfectly.
Where did you get all that?
Parially true. Not all societies had arranged marriages for alliance/wealth purposes, though they more often than not, as is true even today, married in the same class. The rise of the mercantile classes took away the exclusiveness to wealth from the nobility and political classes.
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