I'm slightly confused by one point though. -IF- Rove said "Wilson's wife," is that supposed to be different from saying her name?
No. By identifying her role in the selection of her husband for the job, Rove doesn't have to and apparently did not reveal that she is an undercover CIA agent. So long as Rove did not reveal her job was any different that what her "cover" job was he did not reveal her status. At this point, I have not heard that his description of her job was inconsistant with her work known to the public.
And even IF Rove knew she was covert, mentioning her name and that she worked for theCIA only and not REVEALING that she was covert is nothing more than improper, NOT criminal.