I felt sorry for the kids, one week with mom, one week with Dad. How can a kid deal with that? It just seems so disruptive unless they live around the corner from each other.
"It just seems so disruptive unless they live around the corner from each other."
LOL, right! I remember hearing Dr. Laura tell people who wanted to do this, was to let the kids live one place and have the parents live one week on/one week off with the kids.
I know people who have done it & no, they didn't live around the corner from each other. Other than an occasional mishap of having a uniform at the wrong parent's house, the kids seem to have somehow managed.
Hard to tell which would be worse, the constant disruption of something like that or having a parent mostly drop out of a kid's life.
I once saw a brilliant solution to that--of course, it means putting the kids before ego, and having some disposable income.
Seems the parents rented an apartment, and shared it--one parent one week, the other parent the next--while the children stayed in the family home. As dreadful as divorce is for kids, at least they weren't being shopped from house to house.
It's extremely hard on the kids. I have a friend who has a similar custody situation and those poor kids are so frustrated and disorganized. They can never settle down and relax because by the time they readjust to whichever parent's rules it's time to go to the other parent. Let's just say they are S-T-R-E-S-S-E-D.