If my sister came up with a story like this I would question it. She was forcibly raped, knows who the guy is, yet she failed to report it to anyone. Any one who has ever observed young adults during spring break can attest to the wild shenanigans that goes on ,even if from close , conservative families. This girl in Aruba was from a family that was close and conservative yet she made a bad judgement call. All I am saying is that it is not unusual for young adults to have sex and then feel guilty about it later. Remember, she knows who the guy is. Would she be willing to have him charged with rape at this time or has she forgiven him?
I can tell you are a man. I've worked in an emergency room, and I can tell you that most young women absolutely find it unbearablle to discuss their humiliation, powerlessness, pain and fear with ANYONE, even the most sympathetic of strangers, much less the authorities in a strange country.
Most find it very difficult if not impossible to bring their thoughts to the event. Most blame themselves for making unwise choices--which could not have been known until afterward.
It is agonizing to be the victim of rape. Women walk forward from it each in her own personal way, and this young lady certainly has my prayers, as does her loving family and the dear child.
> If my sister came up with a story like this I would question it.
I pity your sister for having had to grow up with a thorn-in-the-flesh who would question her integrity before defending her honor.
FYI a "bad" judgement call hardly entitles one to be raped...and it is the very attitude that you, and thankfully only a handful of others on this thread, have displayed that helps make it difficult for some women to come forward.
So a girl puts herself in a difficult spot, possibly too much to drink, possibly started down a path that she wants to back track from, regardless rape should not be an acceptable consequence...
Seems to me you need as many prayers as she does...prayers for the ability to be compassionate and a lot less jaded....
Glad I'm not your wife/daughter....I'd be afraid to tell you anything...
dude.
you ever been raped?
you ever known that one of your friends has been raped?
never been raped, myself, but I have known a few women who have let me in on what happened to them. their testimony leads me to suspect that a very large percentage of rape-victims are so ashamed that they tell very few people, if anyone.
to be fair, I am also aware of a few cases of "no-after-the-fact" false rape allegations. In their way these are just as destructive as rape itself. I have seen more than one man destroyed by such allegations.
and, to be completely equitable, it has always struck me as a trifle odd that woman+beer=not responsible, whereas man+beer=legally accountable in so-called "date-rape" cases.
but those are side issues.
If this woman was raped and made pregnant, pray for her.
If this woman made an unwise decision, got pregnant, and is covering for it with a tale of rape: PRAY FOR HER.
In either case, she needs it.
please, re-examine the content and tone of the post to which this is a reply.