It will obviously take some strenuous thinking on your part to close the gap between your thought processes and reality, but I encourage you to give it a shot. It takes time, but muddled thinking can be cured.
I do believe that the Bible says that a man and women, when married, LEAVE their parents and CLEAVE to one another and become ONE BODY! How do YOU know that Terry did not tell her husband HER wishes? Her parents should not be in the picture. Her husband is the LEGAL immediate family. Don't complain to me about it, that is the legal system in America. I told my spouse MY WISHES and backed it up with legal paperwork. Now, open up those rusty irrigation gates to let a little new thinking in...