Well, if you have priorities in life that would seriously conflict with having children, I would have to say that it's probably best to not have them. However, I think they are missing out on a pretty awesome experience. It's not nearly as disruptive as they think it is...unless you are a complete party animal. :)
So do they want to be able to invest some of their Social Security into an account that pays a rate of return or do they want my daughter to pay for them?
Another issue, particularly in "blue" areas, is that to *properly* raise a child can be an immense challenge. For starters, trying to get by on a single income where I live (mandatory in case of a child, ain't gonna be no day care, no way, no how) is no small task. Oh, and mind you, I utterly refuse to take on any more debt than our current mortgage. Secondly, in terms of schooling, the real choices, in order to avoid the disgusting efforts of pedophilic peddlers of the Gay Agenda and other evil programming, are home schooling or private schooling. Add all that up, and, quite honestly, if we are to have kids, either we must move (and face lower income) or we must accomplish something in situ that borders on a miracle. In summary, it is pricisely my insistance on conservative standards of both child rearing and finances that has counterindicated having a child just yet.
Speaking from personal experiance as a man, being there when your little angel is born and those few years bonding with your little girl are unlike anything else life has to experiance.
I use to say to myself if God appeared in front of me and said someone has to die today you or your wife (ex now) I would hem and haw before saying well I guess I have to go but can I have a going away party.
If on the other hand it had been my little angel I would have grabbed ahold of God instantly and not let go.
You dont know love untill you have born a child. Of course thats just my experiance.
"Well, if you have priorities in life that would seriously conflict with having children, I would have to say that it's probably best to not have them."
I agree.
"It's not nearly as disruptive as they think it is...unless you are a complete party animal."
As a mother, I'd have to disagree with that. Having children is disruptive and in my case, I'd say that is good. Once my son was born, friends and parties were forced to the back of the line. Suddenly, my life and the life of my husband were no longer about us....it was about our son and doing right by him. It's a huge undertaking when having kids and most don't realize that until they have kids of there own.