Oh please, put down the Kool-Aid. Pubbie chicks can be just as psycho as 'Rats, Greenies, Libertarians, or any other woman of any stripe in this nation. The problem is that feminism and hedonism have become so entrenched in our society that every woman under the age of 40 has grown to accept it as part of the natural order of the universe.
A better rule of thumb is never marry a woman who's ever watched Oprah, Dr. Phil, American Idol, E!, "Beaches", or any other such drivel. Since that pretty much rules out every woman my age or younger in this country, I guess I'll have to find my future wife overseas.
Scouts Out! Cavalry Ho!
You have got a good point! Our popular culture (Oprah, and all women magazines) stresses that women must be catered to, worshiped, showered with gifts and affection, never criticized, obeyed,....and then you may earn the right to get laid as a reward for being a good dedicated fool to the queen. When these prerequisites do not materialize, then disappointments, and sense of failure is overtaken the foolish women and divorce comes.
I know several divorced 40 year old women with attitude, they still look at the 27 years old muscle guys. When the young guy with the 6-pack abdomen spends the night with such woman for pure sexual reason, she immediately dreams that he loves her, and consequently gets rejected and even more bitter. If Oprah and her ilk never existed, the divorce rate would not be as high in the US.
Chill out bud. It was a joke.
Hang in there. I think it was much harder to find a husband than to be married to one.
As I got older, I changed and the qualities I thought I would want in a husband changed and became more mature. I was a major feminist when I was young although didn't too much Oprah. (Though her dry cleaning special I did really enjoy).
Maybe you have to wait for women in your age group to grow-up. Maybe not. Anyway I wish you success and some good luck.
And what the heck is "Beaches"?? Totally clueless on that one.
You must have been burned badly.
Good women are out there.
My advice is first find a conservative. Conservative women tend to be left brainers . Liberal women are right brainers, all emotion, little or no rationation.
Emotional people are stuck on the It's all about me merry go round. They can't accept personal responsibility , and are born victims. Born victims have to have an excuse for everything.
I think the list is pretty much on the money. Lust is a lot of fun but love gets you through the hard parts.
You should make it a rule to forget about fights as soon as they happen. You also need to rule your tongue. Name calling and blaming have no place in a marriage.
After 26 yrs , I also advise that after a good ventilation to go directly to the bedroom and make up.