Sounds like you are feeling it too.
I am not in any position to ever relocate with my son's care needs.
However if he passes on it is the RV north to Alaska or anywhere very rural.
We thought Oregon was it but all the thieves and bad guys have found new territory to reek havic on good citizens.
Grants Pass I remember was a little town when we visited friends a decade ago. To Bad.
Sorry about your son, but two years ago I had enough of California. I have Alabama as a home base and winter there and farther south in South Texas. both very rural and friendly locations.