Sorry about your son, but two years ago I had enough of California. I have Alabama as a home base and winter there and farther south in South Texas. both very rural and friendly locations.
i was born in Tyler/Kilgore raised in Northern Cali.
I will keep Texas in mind.
Although my son's health/activity is not like it used to be he claims niether one of us is going to die...hmmm. He has died three times in his 25yrs. and came back so he may know something we don't. God only knows.