Posted on 02/14/2004 11:12:45 AM PST by qam1
Basically a bunch of dates in one evening using musical chairs. Emphasizes quantity (8 dates) over quality (8 minutes per date). I'll never do it even though I do pretty well at most job interviews.
But I hadn't heard of the Pilates until today since I only lift rocks.
I'm your age (plus or minus a year), and I know what you mean, but I think these days I would be sadder with the wrong girlfriend than no girlfriend if I really thought about it.
Ah, hell. Even that isn't really true. So these women are crazy; it is always nice to have someone around. How many people really want to be single? Although some of these women may be "okay" being single, I'll bet they aren't really happy. I don't know how many women around here in their mid-30s that I run into that suddenly realized they don't want to be single and become ultra-desperate as a result. They lied to themselves for so long that they swing to the opposite extreme psychologically, when the overwhelming weight of reality hits them.
At least you know exactly what you really want and are honest about it, trend du jour be damned. Emotional and psychological maturity goes a long way toward eventually finding a really rewarding relationship. A lot of the Super-Single-to-Suddenly-Desperate women find themselves in bad relationships due to rather excessive compromises. A disaster anyway you slice it.
As to why I meet so many of these women: I live in the greater San Francisco Bay Area. Enough said.
The number of sexual partners a woman has had doesn't say a whole lot about how "perfect" she is. Mind you, a truly excessive quantity is probably a symptom of some other issues, but I've never met a woman that expected the guy to be a virgin either. And I personally don't have any insecurities that would make me demand virginity from a women.
If you are measuring "perfect" as an inverse function of how many sexual partners someone has had, that is pretty much missing the point. I would prefer an exceptional woman who has been with a number of other guys than a brain-dead boat anchor of a virgin.
In the big picture, long-term scheme of things, minor statistical deviations with respect to sexual experience are largely inconsequential (though I guess virginity would be a statistical deviation).
Really, I always thought that area the male-female ratio is way in the female's favor because you got (or had) a lot of tech jobs which tend to be filled overwhelmingly by males and being California which if I remember correctly is one of only 3 states that have more males than females (Alaska and Nevada are the others)
Granted it's San Fran and all those men for lack of better words "Aren't available", But I would still think most woman would have enough choices that they wouldn't get that desperate
So true that its creepy. I've never done it, but I know people who have and many places around here have that kind of atmosphere as the defacto norm.
You can feel yourself being measured in a dozen different ways for things that have nothing to do with who you really are. It kind of freaks me out to the extent that I see myself get evaluated like a tuna at the Tokyo fish market when I have a few drinks with some friends at a local bar. Most of the women really truly could not care less about me unless my "statistics" are good (which unfortunately they are), so I've learned to lie to make myself seem less interesting from a purely statistical standpoint. The smart girls can see through it though (i.e. they usually extrapolate from personality or something), so it is a reasonably good filter.
First conceived in New York City in the early nineties, its simple format and reputation for getting results for participants, has led Speed Dating to its current position as the worlds fastest growing dating craze.
The beauty of Speed Dating lies in its no-nonsense approach. You take an equal number of male and female singletons, put them in a room and ensure that they have a few minutes with all of the other singles available. It really is as easy as that! Of course, if you have never been to a Speed Dating event before then you will want to know exactly what to expect. If you are one of those who worry about the finer details then read on…
Original Speed Dating events begin early, usually between 7 and 7.30. You will need to register with our representatives to start with; they will issue you with a “scorecard”. This will help you to keep track of the singles that you would like to meet again. After a short period of gathering and mingling, you will meet your compere for the evening who will run through detailed instructions and tell you your starting position.
The Speed Dating is split into two sections, each lasting around an hour, there will be an interval of around 30 minutes. You will have between 3 and 5 minutes dating time with each person, after which you need to tick a box on your score sheet- “yes, I would like to meet this person again” or “no. Thanks but no thanks”. Make sure that you do this after each date to avoid confusion and embarrassment. At the end of the second session our team collect the cards and there is an opportunity for daters to meet and mingle informally-this is often where the real action begins, so make sure you don’t disappear too quickly!
After the event our Original boffins analyse the scorecards. If the dates you have ticked as “yeses” have reciprocated your affections then we have a match. You will be emailed first names and email addresses for all of your matches.
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Marry me.
I wouldn't either. The whole idea is repugnant. Besides, it takes some time - certainly longer than 8 minutes! - to get a bit of a feel for someone. Or at least it does for me.
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