Why is there a bias against interracial dating?

AJC ^ | 1/10/04 | AJC

[null and void]

I believe you have confused dating with courting.

[pctech]

No bias from this freeper. I've seen numerous mixed marriages in my time. For me, being divorced I have no interest in dating anyone right now (I'm 43), but if I was date anyone I wouldn't narrow my search to white women. Matter of fact I've always been fond of asian women. While I've seen some asian women that make cows look prettier by comparison, some of them are "knock 'em down drop dead gorgeous."

[Steel Wolf]

Being in the military , I've worked with a lot of guys who's wives aren't native English speakers. That's an even wider gulf than mere ethnicity, since it entails dealing with a serious cultural gap as well. In many cases, it works out very well. I don't know what the actual stats are, but those couples seem far less likely to get divorced.

As far as black and white goes, I've been with a black woman for the last ten years (on and off, but far more on than off). This has made me more attentive towards racism than I otherwise would have been, but I can't say that I've encountered more than a scattered few instances.

Most of the flak we get comes from younger black guys. It's almost always in the form of humor, but an uncomfortable, almost defensive kind. I had a black squad leader who was in shock for days when he found out. While he was very supportive, it blew his mind for some reason and lead to a lot of jokes.

From older blacks, it's completely different. We've had older blacks stop us in public and tell us what a nice couple we make and how they like seeing us together, for no reason at all. As if we were making some kind of political statement, as opposed to just buying some ice cream.

As far as whites go, aside from a very, very few instances with young or very old idiots, the normal reaction is momentary curiosity, followed by indifferance.

I encounter far more racism travelling overseas than I do at home. She thinks she gets more trouble by virute of her gender than ethnicity, and I'd be inclined to agree.

Neither the old lady nor I have had anything more than a hit and run racial comment more than every five years. Perhaps because she's working on her masters and wields an agile, biting, non-Ebonics accented command of the English language, and I have the bearing of a guy who might either reach for his knife or call his lawyer if provoked, we haven't experienced any real trouble.

[krb]

One of my older sisters dated a black guy during her rebellious stage and ended up marrying him.

I think there is a high correlation between white girls who date black guys and the girl having "daddy issues".

[mhking]

Before I married She-who-must-be-obeyed, I dated several girls "outside of my race."

Was everyone I encountered happy? Nope. Did I care? Nope.

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[mhking]

What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

My brother-in-law is white.

[shrug]

OK.

He's family. He's my sister's husband.

[cyborg]

Lucy Liu from a whole lotta movies
Bai Ling from My Baby's Daddy
Knowing a lot of girls from Vietnam,Philippines,etc. I concur with your sentiment!

[dighton]

"Jerk" has no color. I have always said that "jerk" should have its own passport and its own homeland, so the rest of us can go on our way in peace.

Amen.

[teldon30]

I've had the same experience....very intense and almost violent at times.

[Diva Betsy Ross]

I don't really care who dates and marries whom.

I am color blind. I make it a practice to never notice the color of someone's skin. It makes no difference to me.

If dating or marrying ,a person of a different background , race or culture makes some one happy I am all for it, it is none of my business.

I think alot of the animosity between dark skinned Americans and light skinned Americans ,is perpetuated by people who don't know racism, slavery or discrimination the likes of people who did 200 years ago.

Why can't they let it go and live in the present.

That is the real question.

[xJones]

I think many from this generation have left the anger of the previous generation behind and are more apt to deal with people on an individual basis, rather than a racial basis.

If that's true, why are the large majority of black-white dating/marriages between black males and white females? Why do black females get upset (and rightfully so, imho) over this huge discrepancy?

[wtc911]

Exactly how you should feel...good for you.

[King Prout]

signed up today, huh?
what happened... got bored with DUh.com?

your assumptions, ingrained bias, proud dogmatic victimhood, and DNC-issued talking points kinda give you away.

[NYC Republican]

Does anyone still care about this? Who the hell cares whether the person you're dating is black/white/yellow/red/green/purple? Why is that significant to anyone?

I would have hoped that we would have moved beyond that BS.

Newsflash - we're Americans, and shouldn't be defined by the color of our skin.

[manic4organic]

I've dated a few colors in my time. I, personally, don't care what color my daughter dates as long as they're Christian, honest, intelligent, educated and from a good family. I do realize, however, that should she choose to date/marry outside her race there will be additional challenges imposed by society. But is her decision to make. I can only counsel her.

[hellinahandcart]

I've got a Sacajawea dollar here that says malcolmtwain isn't even black.

[Tijeras_Slim]

I think he's another one of Strom's love children.

[af_vet_1981]

Would you want your son to marry a Britney Spears?

No, never.

[King Prout]

well, I'M not black, for that matter.
it just seems to me that the "uneven playing field" as it exists today does so primarily in the anti-trained minds and ingrained whining attitudes of those who complain most loudly about it.

[reg45]

Black men do not like white men dating black women, however, they have no problem with black men dating white women. It sounds like they want to keep ALL the women to themselves!