Actually, Arminians strongly assert that it is only through salvation that a man can become more like Christ and over time choose to become more in conformance with the will of God and to lead a life of less sin. This is what Arminians believe becomimg perfect (meaning becoming more mature) in Christ. Rather than being fuzzy, this is one thing that is clear as can be in Arminian theology.
In making that statement, you have confirmed one of the basic foundations of Arminian theology, though you try to deny it. You do not differentiate between saved and unsaved men in their ability to choose for or against God. You see no difference. You deny that unregenerate man is incapable of choosing God, that his very existence is at enmity with God. You deny that unregenerate man is God's enemy, and God is his enemy. This is the fatal flaw in Arminianism, because if man is really not that bad, all he needs is a bath and a reason to choose, and he's on his way. The truth is, man needs major heart surgery, performed soley by the Holy Spirit, for without that surgery, man will die.
(Eze 36:26) A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.
The Holy Spirit must perform a heart transplant on man. Man cannot do it himself, nor can he even ask for it, because he doesn't think he needs it!
You quote me, but you're not really understanding what I'm saying.