I do not see how you reconcile your two statements.
Did Christ die for all men?. Does all mean all of every kind? Or was it not an atonemet at all? Was it simple an opportunity for the men that figured it out to be saved?
You know this is an important doctrinal question posed with my usual two left feet..but it is the basis of what we believe
If you do not want to explain what you believe and why you believe it I think there is a spot for you at hobbits hole :>)